I've been feeling particularly anti-establishment today. So I thought I'd take a minute to vomit out some thoughts on the marriage thing, and what the hell I think I'm going to be doing on August 11.
I have no interest in the concept of Marriage as an institution. My good feminist predecessors have been over this; it's all about
ownership.
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i do however think that like everything else, it's a choice- commitment without marriage is just as valid as marriage and unmarried life partners should be able to have the same rights as married couples
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I'm not saying that anyone actually uses words like "ownership" when talking about marriage, and I don't want to deny that there are a lot of great people who have progressive ideas of marriage (c.f. most of my married friends), but the history is still there. All of our traditional marriage symbolism comes from either paganism or the patriarchy, mostly the latter, and we have really not managed to get rid of that. For every progressive indie wedding, there are 7 others that are still full of the (mostly unrecognized) patriarchal imagery ( ... )
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that said i totally respect your decision and opinions on the matter. you are wicked cool and supersmart, and it sounds like Jesse is too.
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I just wanted to add that there's a difference between "being the patriarchy" and "being male." I think there are a ton of ways to be an anti-patriarchal male ally, and I think you do some of those quite well already. I wouldn't actually be able to stay in a relationship with you if you were on the side of the patriarchy.
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