This isn't a response to this whole post, by any means, considering that you've written quite a bit of meta on this and I don't have an opinion yet.
But! Somehow, I am floored at the idea of pairings being so relevant to friendship. Firstly, I'm ignorant of the stereotypes associated with pairings, but regardless of them, it would take a hell of a crazy pairing to make me actively not want to be friends with someone. Like, yes, of course im more likely to become friends with someone if they ship Pin, but that's because I'm going to be interacting with them more! It doesn't mean that even pairings I disagree with are grounds for not being friends.
Things that would make it harder are things like "I hate Jin forever and I like to actively talk about that hate" or "I'm the type of person who enjoys being miserable" or somesuch nonsense.
So I just... Sometimes I don't get all the negativity in this fandom. It makes me feel sad, and more negative myself. How painful it must be, to spend your life trying to place a value on other people.
I do get that people look for people with similar likes, pairings included. But yes this fandom has lots of stereotypes, firmly set reputations for certain pairing lovers and it seems, there are people who find this more important than anything else. I have no clue how representative the people participating in the meme were. For all I know, it could have been the same too people saying this to everyone. On the other hand, people came gradually and even by the style of comments, I think there was more of them. Yes otp is a limiting criteria, but apparently very popular one
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I'm late for joining the anti-friending meme (exams takes my breath away) but I read some of it. Surely I'm not going to complain about Ryoda, seen as I get to know you trough your fics! I totally agree on JE fandom being more the yaoi, I really enjoy talking about all the stuff about our boys and also reading all the personal entry people post on lj. A tiny sparkly piece on world united around pretty idols!
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I wish fandom was actually less about OTPs but more about the music, hilarity, boys etc.
I don't even like Ryo (please don't unfriend me now ._.) but I was never annoyed by you fangirling RyoDa. I think it's obvious by the rest of your form or just by looking at your lj that you're not one of the "crazy" ones which are responsible for the bad reputation.
Ah, pairings. That's interesting, because I don't care about that at all. oO I find it fun to flail about favourites and most of my friends are pretty equal-opportunity when it comes to shipping stuff, anyway. I mean, I do find it hard to feel a connection to the people on my flist who are in very different fandoms. T&T or even K8 are groups that I can appreciate but I'm really pretty comfortable with KT and maybe Kisumai. But pairings? Idk, maybe I'm just to shipping-happy. XD
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2nd section: NOD NOD I feel like I most show as ryoda fangirl on request posts, memes and such and I like to flail about them so I am glad that it is not too much :D and aaawwwww ♥
3rd section: THIS!!!!! Especially about what you can't say in 150 characters and such.
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Me too for both. And then I can start planning to go see her.
I'd love to in spring for sakura season. Though I am afraid the only way this will ever happen is if I go along with my parents (who are planning the same) and that will drastically change the entire experience. Still better than nothing.
That is kind of sad all things considering. I guess I failed at analysis then.
I didn't participate on the anti-friending meme because I haven't participated in a friending meme (yet), but somehow it makes sense. Personally, more than pairings/ships or connectivity, I think coherence is the most important. After a while though, it all comes down to who you click or not, right? I admit that, without Twitter, I'd be pretty much dead in fandom (personal wise, fic journals are a totally different thing), but I don't think it should be a requirement for a friend in LJ to have twitter and viceversa, even if I see the logic behind it. It's kind of.. fandom is moving so fast. I always wondered if I'd be up to date if I didn't have it on my phone. Might make an experiment on my own and get rid of twitter on my phone.
Also, can I saw how I love your logical analysis of this experiment? Let's skip the part where I sound like a creeper, y/y? Maybe some of these pointers would help in future friending memes.. something like, tips to give a good job interview.
Especially the last point makes me feel even more detached to
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If you try that experiment (and no cheating by backreading ;D) let me know what you thought. I actually too think that coherence is pretty important. Of course, I am pretty good at deciphering things, but I hate to wonder what all that was about ;D You know?
Haha well since I called it an experiment, I felt like a report on the observations was in order :D And this entry is open, people can come back to learn what to hide about themselves ;D
Haha, I have a mistake in that sentence. Will try!
Hahahah it's proven to be quite hard so far, but I'm doing it right now. Let's see how long till the deprivation hits in. The insights were certainly interesting, and maybe useful.. I just skimmed over comments and it seems like Joo has tons of insight there, might as well stalk that too #creepermodeon. Anyway, we. will. see. how this thing with twitter goes. And might even make a report of it, since we're doing this kind of thing ;).
*sits and waits for next experiment* *rocks back and forth*
With LJ being a pain, you have all my love. It ate a tl;dr post the other day and I almost stabbed my screen with my heels. It's insanely annoying. But well, I'll still be waiting those pics, at least a couple :") ♥.
Also hmm, I am not too clever to come up with them, that is my friend's parte. But if she suggest something again that I will feel like trying, I will make sure you find out ;D
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This isn't a response to this whole post, by any means, considering that you've written quite a bit of meta on this and I don't have an opinion yet.
But! Somehow, I am floored at the idea of pairings being so relevant to friendship. Firstly, I'm ignorant of the stereotypes associated with pairings, but regardless of them, it would take a hell of a crazy pairing to make me actively not want to be friends with someone. Like, yes, of course im more likely to become friends with someone if they ship Pin, but that's because I'm going to be interacting with them more! It doesn't mean that even pairings I disagree with are grounds for not being friends.
Things that would make it harder are things like "I hate Jin forever and I like to actively talk about that hate" or "I'm the type of person who enjoys being miserable" or somesuch nonsense.
So I just... Sometimes I don't get all the negativity in this fandom. It makes me feel sad, and more negative myself. How painful it must be, to spend your life trying to place a value on other people.
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basically i agree with you and maia and ryoda rocks. :Dv
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Surely I'm not going to complain about Ryoda, seen as I get to know you trough your fics!
I totally agree on JE fandom being more the yaoi, I really enjoy talking about all the stuff about our boys and also reading all the personal entry people post on lj. A tiny sparkly piece on world united around pretty idols!
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I don't even like Ryo (please don't unfriend me now ._.) but I was never annoyed by you fangirling RyoDa. I think it's obvious by the rest of your form or just by looking at your lj that you're not one of the "crazy" ones which are responsible for the bad reputation.
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1st section: NOD NOD
2nd section: NOD NOD I feel like I most show as ryoda fangirl on request posts, memes and such and I like to flail about them so I am glad that it is not too much :D and aaawwwww ♥
3rd section: THIS!!!!! Especially about what you can't say in 150 characters and such.
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Me too for both. And then I can start planning to go see her.
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I would comment normally, but somehow I didn't really have any specific reactions to your post.
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That is kind of sad all things considering. I guess I failed at analysis then.
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Also, can I saw how I love your logical analysis of this experiment? Let's skip the part where I sound like a creeper, y/y? Maybe some of these pointers would help in future friending memes.. something like, tips to give a good job interview.
Especially the last point makes me feel even more detached to ( ... )
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Haha well since I called it an experiment, I felt like a report on the observations was in order :D And this entry is open, people can come back to learn what to hide about themselves ;D
Haha, I have a mistake in that sentence. Will try!
I just need to find the patience to code it all.
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*sits and waits for next experiment* *rocks back and forth*
With LJ being a pain, you have all my love. It ate a tl;dr post the other day and I almost stabbed my screen with my heels. It's insanely annoying. But well, I'll still be waiting those pics, at least a couple :") ♥.
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Also hmm, I am not too clever to come up with them, that is my friend's parte. But if she suggest something again that I will feel like trying, I will make sure you find out ;D
They will come, I promise.
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