Poly - Is it a choice?

[samovar82]

One of the things that I had not considered when my wife first brought up the topic of opening our marriage was that there was a political angle to the discussion

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[ktylove]

I'm not sure about the percentage of polys who feel they are inherently poly, but I do know that the majority aren't interested in a political agenda or activism. Those that are, however, seem to be almost vocal enough for the rest of us

[poly_fi]

My fingers couldn't be more crossed for you, ktylove. I love to read of your sweet little intentional family.

[samovar82]

I will keep my fingers crossed - although it does slow down my typing.

14 years... that is a testament to your ability to stay honest and present and open. It is wonderfully inspiring.

[poly_fi]

This is a super interesting discussion, samovar82. I have often wondered this of the issues that touch me: BDSM, bi-sexuality, and poly. I suppose I've listed each in their level of importance to me. Yet they're each difficult to separate from what engendered them. I honestly doubt that I personally would be unhappy vanilla, straight and mono if I had not had some challenges in my formative years. With that said, I have some dear friends that are non-negotiably kinky, gay or poly and would be so if they were to be plopped as a youngster in the middle of a society that had never heard of such things.

I guess the Love Judge dwells within?

I'm glad to be back after my brief time away from LJ. :o)

[samovar82]

Nice to have you back.

The paths we have traveled are part of what makes us who we are.

For me the most interesting thing so far about opening up our relationship is that it has added to the relationship, and I doubted that it would. Which leads to the next question - what else is out there that would add to my relationship (or life) that I have never considered as an option, or that I don't even know about yet?

The voyage continues...