Sick with a viral infection. Nyquiled to the nose. I'm dopey and awake at 05:00. And, checking the computer, an anonymous poster has commented as follows
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Just cuz I argued the opposite the last timenantosveltaNovember 12 2011, 05:39:31 UTC
My aunt was adopted and so far as I know, she never attempted to contact her birth parents. She's always spoken so lovingly of her adopted parents that I don't think she ever wanted to know about her birth family. She's also 20 years-ish older than you which may play a part, but the people who raised her were wonderful and I don't think she's worried much beyond that.
If I may intrude once more. My second cousin became pregnant by the son of her step-father (yet another long story) and gave up the baby. She has since become a responsible mother of 3, and seems to have overcome the addictions that are rampant on that side of the family. The following post was made on FB: 13 years ago, today, I gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl. I made the hardest decision I have ever had to make in my life. I chose to bless a family who was not fortunate enough to have their own children. Giving a baby up for adoption is by far the hardest thing to do. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her; what kind of music she likes, what her favourite subject is in school, what her style is, what her favourite food is...etc. Happy birthday, my beautiful daughter, you will always be in my heart :)
People get hurt because they don't get what they want, need, or hope for from the experience. Women don't carry a pregnancy and give birth and then never think of that baby again. You wouldn't, couldn't possibly, remind her of something she's forgotten entirely, unless it's because of alzheimers or true amnesia. On the other hand, if you chose to, you could offer her the gift of knowing that what she did all those years ago turned out well for you at least. You could thank her. If nothing else, you could thank her for me. I love you and I'm grateful to her for her part in giving you the opportunity to become everything you are to me.
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13 years ago, today, I gave birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl. I made the hardest decision I have ever had to make in my life. I chose to bless a family who was not fortunate enough to have their own children. Giving a baby up for adoption is by far the hardest thing to do. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her; what kind of music she likes, what her favourite subject is in school, what her style is, what her favourite food is...etc. Happy birthday, my beautiful daughter, you will always be in my heart :)
Upon serious reflection, I vote, go for it.
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Women don't carry a pregnancy and give birth and then never think of that baby again. You wouldn't, couldn't possibly, remind her of something she's forgotten entirely, unless it's because of alzheimers or true amnesia.
On the other hand, if you chose to, you could offer her the gift of knowing that what she did all those years ago turned out well for you at least.
You could thank her.
If nothing else, you could thank her for me. I love you and I'm grateful to her for her part in giving you the opportunity to become everything you are to me.
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