Comments | riss287: Dating with a Disability

riss287

Dating with a Disability

Aug 27, 2008 20:28

As a person with a visual impairment, I've always had trouble meeting people and making friends. In high school, it was absolutely horrendous. However, I thought college would be an improvement. Although it was to some extent, I still found the same biases. I only dated two people in college, which was two more than I did in high school. One ( Read more... )

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Ironic.... lexlookingout March 31 2009, 00:51:59 UTC

This entry came a day after you and I started communicating through Match.com. Yet, you suddenly locked up and stopped talking to me without any explanation when we started to get to know one another. I know I didn't say anything that offended you and I never said your visual impairment was any sort of issue so it still remains a mystery to me because I was really interested in you. Shortly after that, I discovered this blog, and it helped me figure out the mystery that is Marissa. I realized you thought I was just going to do the same thing that you described in this blog though I don't know why you would have thought that. Anyway, I'd just like to set the record straight on that matter and I hope that you do find happiness somewhere. You do deserve some after all you have been through. If you ever need to talk, about anything, my ears are always open to you.

Re: Ironic.... riss287 March 31 2009, 01:16:33 UTC

I appreciate you pointing out my hypocrisy, because sometimes we all need that pointed out to us. I have to admit that I don't exactly know who you are though. I mean you didn't give me your name in the comment, and I don't pay for Match anymore so I can't get into my mailbox to look at my sent messages, and I looked up your lj name on match and it doesn't come up. Anyway, I'm sorry I dropped off the face of the earth and left you hanging. That wasn't nice of me at all. I did turn out to be right about most of the people that I didn't tell right away about my vision though. I let my subscription go because it just wasn't worth paying for rejection. We can all get that for free, right? I hope to figure out who you are though so I can try to right my wrong a little bit.

Re: Ironic.... lexlookingout March 31 2009, 01:40:21 UTC

I wouldn't expect you to remember my name since it has been several months since our last interaction but my name is Alex. I decided that it was time to set it straight because it had been nagging me all this time and I honestly had been wanting to do it for awhile now after reading this blog for so long. Recently, a similar event happened between me and my ex who had become a good friend to me where she had suddenly cut off all communication back in October after we had been talking nearly every day since we had first started going out over two years ago as a couple. We met on Match.com ironically. Anyway, I thought to myself that she hated me or had finally decided that she wanted nothing more to do with me which hurt a lot because I had done nothing to hurt her. I found out two weeks ago that she had married the Marine she had been dating for a few months and moved to Okinawa. I found out not because she told me but because I looked for her on my own. I sent her a message on Facebook, congratulating her and wishing her the best. I ( ... )

Re: Ironic.... riss287 March 31 2009, 02:02:43 UTC

Ah! Ok, I remember now, although I don't know why I stopped talking to you. I know (as you do) that it wasn't anything you did. That's pretty crazy about your ex moving to Japan. I would think that was a lie if you hadn't found out yourself, just because it's so out there. Anyway, I hope you're doing well and I think tying up loose ends, so to speak, is a good idea.

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