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riss287

Dating with a Disability

Aug 27, 2008 20:28

As a person with a visual impairment, I've always had trouble meeting people and making friends. In high school, it was absolutely horrendous. However, I thought college would be an improvement. Although it was to some extent, I still found the same biases. I only dated two people in college, which was two more than I did in high school. One ( Read more... )

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Re: Ironic.... lexlookingout March 31 2009, 01:40:21 UTC

I wouldn't expect you to remember my name since it has been several months since our last interaction but my name is Alex. I decided that it was time to set it straight because it had been nagging me all this time and I honestly had been wanting to do it for awhile now after reading this blog for so long. Recently, a similar event happened between me and my ex who had become a good friend to me where she had suddenly cut off all communication back in October after we had been talking nearly every day since we had first started going out over two years ago as a couple. We met on Match.com ironically. Anyway, I thought to myself that she hated me or had finally decided that she wanted nothing more to do with me which hurt a lot because I had done nothing to hurt her. I found out two weeks ago that she had married the Marine she had been dating for a few months and moved to Okinawa. I found out not because she told me but because I looked for her on my own. I sent her a message on Facebook, congratulating her and wishing her the best. I did that because I wanted her to know that I wasn't angry or jealous that she was closer to someone else now. Anyway, it was good to finally get some closure even though it hurt to be dissed like that by someone who calls themselves "your friend" so I have decided that I am not going to let things go unfinished whenever possible because it eats away at you. Even if they are little things.

Re: Ironic.... riss287 March 31 2009, 02:02:43 UTC

Ah! Ok, I remember now, although I don't know why I stopped talking to you. I know (as you do) that it wasn't anything you did. That's pretty crazy about your ex moving to Japan. I would think that was a lie if you hadn't found out yourself, just because it's so out there. Anyway, I hope you're doing well and I think tying up loose ends, so to speak, is a good idea.

Re: Ironic.... lexlookingout March 31 2009, 02:39:06 UTC

I'm still trying to reconcile it more precisely for myself as I did find a hopeful entry you has posted elsewhere on a topic of discussion about me shortly after we had started talking. A few days after that, you were gone all together though I was able to determine that you had in fact blocked my AIM name and figured you just wanted to be left alone at that time. After I had found and been reading the blog for several months, including the older entries you got rid of, the only thing I could figure out is that you decided to avoid the rejection that you might have thought coming or that maybe you didn't think I wasn't interested in you because I didn't try to get you to meet up with me from the start. I know you had said something along the lines of not wanting to waste your time with games and wanted people to be upfront with you about being interested in you so I also thought you might have interpreted my actions as what you didn't want to deal with. Anyway, it would be nice if one us could figure this out, even if it's something as simple as you accidentally blocking me. As for my ex, yes it's true so far as I know because that is what she told me, but I haven't confirmed it through any reliable means because she has no friends to speak of and contacting her family members would be awkward to say the least. So how are you doing lately? Your recent blog entries don't say much about what is going on in your life but rather reflect on events of the past. Did you ever get anywhere with grad school admissions? I saw there was some potential romance in the air between you and that Bud fella but he seems to have been gone from your life for a while.

Re: Ironic.... riss287 March 31 2009, 03:03:33 UTC

Where was this "elsewhere" that I also wrote about you? I have to say I'm a little... surprised... that so much information was available to you without me knowing it. I guess I shouldn't be though. It is the internet. I was accepted at grad school, to which I will be going in August. Bud is a friend but not dating material.

Re: Ironic.... lexlookingout March 31 2009, 03:16:49 UTC

It was http://community.livejournal.com/gimpysex/69880.html

Something called "gimpysex". As for you being surprised, the fact is that anyone can track what you do on LJ if they know how to go through the site, though it isn't as easy as using a search engine which is how I came across your blog those many months ago. The older LJ entries were stuff I read when they were part of your LJ before you deleted them. After you deleted them, they were gone for good so don't think I or anyone else read them when you didn't want anyone to read them. I'm glad that you got accepted to grad school. Hopefully it will be a good experience for you and it will let you grow as a person in the next few years.

Re: Ironic.... riss287 March 31 2009, 03:27:05 UTC

I thought that was it! Well, anyway, you're perfectly right about LJ. I have my myspace and facebook private, as far as I know. So, anything new in your life?

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