That is just the way she is. YOU did NOTHING wrong. You heard the stories and now you got it first hand. Remind me to tell you a story or have RedRogue tell you a story about Ponderosa. Trust me, it was a shocking experience. But a real glimse of her.
When P, called to tell me about the baby, I was very very happy. D is one of my kids. I love him like my own sons. I would love to see the new baby but I will not, unless I can be assured that Grandma will not be around. Kind of difficult since they live with her now isn't it?
My life is much less stressful since that DRAMA has left my life. I want to keep it that way.
you didn't do anything wrong. her little "tradition" of holding the kids first is nothing but immature. i am sure it sounds noble and all in her mind, but getting angry because it was "broken" is immature.
So let me get this straight ...the_geoffreyJanuary 20 2006, 06:36:36 UTC
>William was born at 9:48pm >I got there at 8:45am >his mom came in at 10:45
So, you're telling me that she didn't bother to show up *at all* for THIRTEEN HOURS after the baby was born, and she expected to be the first to hold her?
No sympathy for her. Zero. Wait, let me check ... nope. Sorry. My baby's grandmother was there with us several days before Elizabeth was born. Didn't quite get that "whole family moves into the hospital with the patient" Nigerian paradigm, but she was there, and actively supportive, all the way through the process. This is in comparison to your friends' mother/in-law, who just waltzed in and expected that her grandbaby would have been neglected to placate HER self-idealized "territorial imperative?" She needs a big steamin' case of STFU.
not your problemunomesowellJanuary 20 2006, 07:42:19 UTC
If it was life or death important the parents would never have let you hold him. Not your issue at all. Plus chances are you weren't even the first to hold him if he was already 13 hours old . .I know with my three he was held by dozens of people in the first hour! She sounds so familiar though it makes me wonder f we are related. :)
Re: So let me get this straight ...renaorianaJanuary 20 2006, 19:31:58 UTC
As they started letting people go in to the room, I got my stuff together and stayed back so family COULD go first. New daddy was so proud that he did nto let anyone hold the baby. Not even the new mommy. I left before Nana did. She should have made her son hand-him-over or should have gotten there at the butt crack of dawn like I did. Oh well.
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When P, called to tell me about the baby, I was very very happy. D is one of my kids. I love him like my own sons. I would love to see the new baby but I will not, unless I can be assured that Grandma will not be around. Kind of difficult since they live with her now isn't it?
My life is much less stressful since that DRAMA has left my life. I want to keep it that way.
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Thank you for posting. Coming from you means A LOT!!!!
Off to work.
Toodles :)
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>I got there at 8:45am
>his mom came in at 10:45
So, you're telling me that she didn't bother to show up *at all* for THIRTEEN HOURS after the baby was born, and she expected to be the first to hold her?
No sympathy for her. Zero. Wait, let me check ... nope. Sorry. My baby's grandmother was there with us several days before Elizabeth was born. Didn't quite get that "whole family moves into the hospital with the patient" Nigerian paradigm, but she was there, and actively supportive, all the way through the process. This is in comparison to your friends' mother/in-law, who just waltzed in and expected that her grandbaby would have been neglected to placate HER self-idealized "territorial imperative?" She needs a big steamin' case of STFU.
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