Epiphanies

[redrocketwestie]

So I thought of a few things recently that kind of resonated.

When I was young, I played with Legos a lot, you know, before they sold out and got lame. It came up in a recent conversation with lostlo that I had 1-2 huge bins of Legos whereas she had a tacklebox-like setup that was meticulously organized. My gigantic bins were far from organized and in

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[bootnrally]

Yeah, whatever happened with that girl you were all "Holy Shit!" about? You know, the one whose name I can't remember but I think started with a Y? ;)

...instead of being afraid of rejection, I merely resign myself to a high probability thereof, and thus pragmatically decide that the expected payout is not worth the effort.

I so identify with this. Except now it's no longer in the Relationship category; it's more in the Everything Else category. So I guess replace "rejection" with "failure" and that's my schtick.

[redrocketwestie]

Yeah, I waited a week like you suggested, then she made a comment about me being "out of the blue" (I guess I waited too long) and stopped responding. Meh. I blew it. It would have been tricky anyway (see what I mean about rationalizing how things won't work out?) given the physical distance.

Anyway, no big deal. But the fact that one failed date has apparently sated my fervor for the "dating scene" did help bring me to the realization above.

[bootnrally]

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I am so, so sorry!!!! I didn't mean to give you bad advice. Oh man. You're on your own from now on, buddy. ;)

Oh man. That's such a shame. Goddammit. Although the commute did sound like quite a bit of effort.

Well... *tries to think of something comforting* If you're still interested in pursuing that Y-girl, you could send her flowers or something. Maybe with a note that says "I'm an idiot, could you give me another chance?" But you're probably tired of my advice, so...insert unhelpful platitudes about how it's a big world and there's someone for everyone.

[redrocketwestie]

Nonsense. I could have ignored your advice if I'd chosen to. And by now it is most definitely too late. But if you read my original post, it's fine. Rejection doesn't really bother me. Believe it or not, Yadira's wasn't the first craigslist ad that I responded to. But it was the first to receive a response back. ;)

[stygian33]

I think that I am timid sometimes just as a matter of politeness. I don't like pushy people, so I try not to be pushy. But then again, that could just be my rationalizing my own fear of rejection.