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ravenne_crion

Update and late Valentines day is late!

Feb 16, 2010 10:08

I told myself I would put write an update on what has been happening with me and the boyfriend since the incident where I had a conniption when he inadvertently made me feel bad for not having sex with him. It was actually really easy to talk to him about it. Mostly because he brought it up. When I went to my car that afternoon, I realized I had ( Read more... )

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celestineangel February 16 2010, 15:35:49 UTC

I hope you brought up also the fact that it's your body and he doesn't have the right to assume you owe any part of it to him just because he's your boyfriend. I mean, I don't want to sound like I'm not glad it worked out, because I am. But without that part of it, the same situation might come up again. And it's just something he probably hasn't thought about, the same way you didn't think about it... and as long as he doesn't think about it, it could continue to be a problem.

ravenne_crion February 16 2010, 15:39:29 UTC

I think it would also help if I wasn't so passive agressive about it. Me actually coming out and going "Can't you wait?" seemed to have shaken him up. So, I think if I act resistant and coy, he thinks I'm actually teasing. So, I told him I would be more up front. When something makes me uncomfortable, he will know.

celestineangel February 16 2010, 15:49:49 UTC

Yeeeaaaah, passive aggressive bad. I'm glad he seems to be shaken, though. If it does happen again, though, promise me you'll be even more direct about the "it's my body not yours" thing? Please?

ravenne_crion February 16 2010, 15:55:15 UTC

I promise you, Sabbie, that I will be even more direct with the "It's my body not yours" thing if the problem pops up again.

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ami_ven February 17 2010, 04:50:12 UTC

Happy Valentine's Day!

I'm glad things worked out with your boyfriend- he sounds great.

And I'm not giving anything up for Lent- I'm Lutheran, and we don't usually do stuff like that. We just have 'Lenten soup suppers' where we have little church services and soup on Wednesday nights.

ravenne_crion February 17 2010, 14:38:50 UTC

Happy Valentines day!

And thank you, he's an alright guy. A big dork like me so we get along well in our mutual dorkiness.

Lucky hethen :) (You know I kid) That sounds like a nice time though. Is it every wednesday in lent or just Ash wednesday?