Wow that was very insightful. I mean in getting to know you as a person since we only talked briefly at last year's Acen and randomly through LJ.
I didn't even know you and Andy were married at one point! Maybe that's me just being a crappy friend and not going back through entries or some such. ^^;
As for relationships, I think it's really a process of trial and error until we find someone that's perfect for us. Sure we make mistakes and I think everybody has been in a relationship where it probably went on for longer than it should have. I know I've been there.
Oh, I didn't realize you didn't know. Totally understandable though. We weren't around each other that much at ACen and it's not something I generally talk about in my journal since it's old news. Recent relationship developments have just made me introspect-y.
But, yeah, that's why it made was so funny/weird that he was Mal and I was Inara. ^^ On one hand, it worked because we both fit the individual characters and we're good and fighting, but on the other hand it was kinda weird since we were supposed to be a couple. o.O But that's okay, because some friends and I talked about doing FF again and this time, I wanna be River or Saffron. ^^
Oops, sorry. That's why I put it behind a cut. I figured you could choose to read it or not. But I guess that's kinda like having a button that says "don't push me"? I honestly didn't think there would be anything in there that would bother you, or I wouldn't have posted it publicly. :(
I find it very reassuring reading that others around me have had similar experiences with their first mates (no, not as in ARRRRR...this be my first matey). It seems many of us in the divorcee club have had similar things come out in our relationships, but wouldn't trade the experience, because we learned a lot and also still are friends (some of us closer than others) with our former mates. Wow, I feel all "normal" or something. :)
I'm also glad things happened the way they did because my current circle includes a lot of awesome people that I may not have met if things were different in my past.
And I don't care how many traits a person has off a checklist...if you don't *like* them, if there's no spark, the relationship is wrong and won't work. Which was what confused me for so long, I think. He has all these great qualities and, on paper, everything should have been fabulous, but I wasn't attracted to him
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I didn't even know you and Andy were married at one point! Maybe that's me just being a crappy friend and not going back through entries or some such. ^^;
As for relationships, I think it's really a process of trial and error until we find someone that's perfect for us. Sure we make mistakes and I think everybody has been in a relationship where it probably went on for longer than it should have. I know I've been there.
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But, yeah, that's why it made was so funny/weird that he was Mal and I was Inara. ^^ On one hand, it worked because we both fit the individual characters and we're good and fighting, but on the other hand it was kinda weird since we were supposed to be a couple. o.O But that's okay, because some friends and I talked about doing FF again and this time, I wanna be River or Saffron. ^^
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I'm also glad things happened the way they did because my current circle includes a lot of awesome people that I may not have met if things were different in my past.
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This is so true.
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