The thing that gets me about bullying is that teachers just. don't. care. They see it, and they're aware of it, and often very subtly sort of encourage it. Parents just tell you to suck it up, or to talk to a teacher, which does no good. It sucks, but I learned the hard way that I was just going to have to suffer through school. That's a great post. He's absolutely right. I wish, though, that kids had someone in school who would actually do something. Because they don't.
Parents just tell you to suck it up, or to talk to a teacher, which does no good. It sucks, but I learned the hard way that I was just going to have to suffer through school.I think it's because parents really don't realise how bad it is. I couldn't have been loved more by my family, and I was still told to "grow a thick skin" and "boys will be boys" (and if that's the case, what was the girls' excuse?) and other platitudes like that. Even when parents are bullying survivors themselves, it's so far in the past for them that they don't see it any more. Or maybe that's all bullshit, because I sure do remember it
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I dropped out of school. Being the weird kid was one of the reasons for that, and seriously? Having a crap- job where I was treated like shit by customers and harrassed and bullied by my boss at 15 was FAR better than school: at least I got paid for it and I had a union. :) School was quite literally hell for me... I was quite serious when I threatened to try and blow the place up or off myself if I was made to stay there another year.
And yeah: no way in hell do I want my kids-- or any others-- having the same shit experience I did. I'm terrified of my sons coming to hate school because of some shithead in their class (and some shithead teachers not doing anything about it).
i wish there was some easy solution. kids can be SO cruel. girls especially, since in my experience boys tend to settle things with physical violence, whereas girls tend to go for psychological bullying. my high school years were, by far, the worst years of my life. my parents had no idea anything was wrong because i was a straight-A student. even if i think now of the people who bullied me - and its been over 20 years - i still clench my fists. i dont wish that sort of mental anguish on anyone. GO RICK!!!!!!!
My high school years were my salvation, actually. It was grades 1-8, especially junior high that were the worst ones (which makes me in the minority; I'm pretty sure it's high school for most kids).
Girls are worse than boys because of the reasons you said. The physical stuff isn't nearly as damaging as cruel words can be. Whoever wrote that "sticks and stones can break my bones" adage was full of crap
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it just frustrates me that it seems to be getting WORSE, not better. its such a shame. one of the biggest reasons i never had kids is because i didnt want to see what happened to me happen to anyone else. the high school thing set off several years of other stuff, none of which i would wish upon anyone.
im glad its made you more aware and a better parent. if there were more parents actively trying to change things, more parents who understood how damaging bullying is, more people willing to do something about it.... if only.
and rick should be King of Canada. or Prime Minister, at LEAST! *g*
To this day, I am uncomfortable with friendly teasing, because of the bullying and name-calling from my school years.
I'm very uncomfortable with it, unless I know and trust someone really well. I don't say anything when people do it, because it's not really their fault. Or mine, either, but still.
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I dropped out of school. Being the weird kid was one of the reasons for that, and seriously? Having a crap- job where I was treated like shit by customers and harrassed and bullied by my boss at 15 was FAR better than school: at least I got paid for it and I had a union. :) School was quite literally hell for me... I was quite serious when I threatened to try and blow the place up or off myself if I was made to stay there another year.
And yeah: no way in hell do I want my kids-- or any others-- having the same shit experience I did. I'm terrified of my sons coming to hate school because of some shithead in their class (and some shithead teachers not doing anything about it).
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Girls are worse than boys because of the reasons you said. The physical stuff isn't nearly as damaging as cruel words can be. Whoever wrote that "sticks and stones can break my bones" adage was full of crap ( ... )
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im glad its made you more aware and a better parent. if there were more parents actively trying to change things, more parents who understood how damaging bullying is, more people willing to do something about it.... if only.
and rick should be King of Canada. or Prime Minister, at LEAST! *g*
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Prime Minister would be all kinds of cool.
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I'm very uncomfortable with it, unless I know and trust someone really well. I don't say anything when people do it, because it's not really their fault. Or mine, either, but still.
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