Emotional & Breast Changes

[wishformore]

Hey everyone, I just have a quick couple of questions. I'm 31 weeks and the past couple of days I've been an emotional mess. Up until now, I've been fairly even keeled as far as emotions go, but lately... I'm falling apart at every little thing. I'm frustrated, tired of being pregnant, and as much as I love my daughter- I feel like I'm losing my

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[x_cybergoth_x]

I had real issues with my moods at the end of both my pregnancies too, but I returned to normal once my babies were on the outside. As for leakage, I leaked tonnes in my first pregnancy, almost nothing in my second. So it varies, and it is completely normal. If annoying.

[wishformore]

Thanks, it's nice to hear that it's "normal" to feel crazy and have your boobs leak spontaneously, even if normal varies from person to person.

[lifemz]

Perfect first comment.

[demure]

You are not a big fat whiner. Pregnancy is HARD, and as soon as one difficult thing starts waning, two more things replace it. I'm near the end of my first (and last) pregnancy, and the biggest thing I have learned is that there is no "easy" part. You just trade off different flavors of misery until it's over.

Your hormones are going to hit hard in waves, and while you're taking some mood stabilizers that may help, they aren't much of a match for a preggo body. When it feels like it's too much to handle, I usually sequester myself away, cry if need be, and just try to ride the wave until it's calmed down. Some days just seem easier than others, but you really just have to cope as best as you can, hang in there and know that there is a set timeline for it to be over.

I've just had a few colostrum dribbles, so I can't speak from experience on that one, but it doesn't sound super uncommon, nor does it sound like an indication of a problem.

I so feel for ya <3

[wishformore]

Yes. My husband keeps talking about having another one, and I'm like, "I don't know if I can do this again! And we havent even got to the labour part yet!"

Thank you for validating my feelings of insanity & frustration. I think that's fairly accurate with the 'wave of hormones'.

I am counting down the days until my due date.

[nynaeve_sedai]

Pregnancy is rough - even when it's relatively smooth. The third trimester brings with it the exhaustion and its difficult to keep up your moods when you can't get enough sleep. I deal with severe depression that can't be treated during pregnancy (the only med that works cannot be taken). I'm running on fumes - which we expected - and so I've just gone into hibernation mode. My son gets extra tv time, my husband does his own laundry, my mother who loves to clean is coming in a few days to take over the house and help get it ready for baby (I'm 38wk4d).

Be patient with yourself emotionally and accept that things just aren't going to happen. Try to plan on longer stretches to catch a few extra winks at night. You don't have to be super woman :) As for the breast issue - every woman is different. I haven't leaked at all but some leak early in their pregnancy and some leak a lot.

It doesn't last forever though in the moment it certainly feels that way.

[wishformore]

Well, I'm glad I'm not the only one, though I'm sorry you are riding the struggle bus too. But on the bright side- you're almost done!

Thank you!

Having an end date in sight definitely helps, but gods, I wish it was closer these days.

[moondrunk]

Jut be gentle with yourself; no pregnancy - even "easier" ones - are ever really easy and the third trimester is physically painful and exhausting for a lot of women. At 27 weeks I'm feeling pretty much the same way you are. When sleep sucks and your back and pelvis and even ab muscles hurt, it sucks. You start falling apart not because anything's wrong with you, but because most people in those circumstances are going to struggle. The fact that you have been pregnant for months doesn't make it easier to deal with now, so yeah...be gentle. It's totally okay to feel this way

[wishformore]

Thank you. It feels like I am going to be pregnant and crazy forever right now, although I know that isn't the case.

I also feel really awful because people want to hang out with me and do things and I just don't have the energy. Seriously, going out and being sociable for one day/evening leaves me drained for the next 2 to 3 days.

Thanks.

[moondrunk]

Yeah, I know that feeling too. :( Entertaining guests at our house for one night and I'm tired. Walking around the city, which used to be no problem, had me out of commission the rest of the week. It's just so...exhausting. Existing is exhausting. I want to be happy and grateful because, zomg baby! but I'm just so tired that really, I just want a frigging nap. I've mostly decided either they get it or they don't and either way, I can't change it.

Hang in there. I know it happened in my first pregnancy but as much as I remember that looking back at my journal entries I don't /remember/ remember that. (Which I'm pretty sure means it was lost in a fatigue induced blur, but I'll take it.)

[wishformore]

Yep, pretty much. I know that I will survive this, but I'm so exhausted and frustrated that I feel like I'm on the verge of a total meltdown most of the time.

Speaking of naps, I think it's just about that time for me, lol.

[daniellelenora]

I, too, like pervious posters, became an emotional wreck at the end of my pregnancy last time. In fact, I had to go off work early because I would start crying damn near every morning and call in sick. This pregnancy, I'm planning for it. I'm going off work at 32 weeks. I'm also preparing everyone around me for it. My poor husband.

If you were thinking about adjusting your meds, I'm not sure it would be worth it or make too much of a difference. Of course, I'm no doctor, I just know that becoming a wreck at the end of pregnancy is a common thing.

[wishformore]

Yeah, I'm already on maternity leave. I am too exhausted and too much of a mess to function with work these days.

I'm not really thinking about adjusting my meds, I'm already at the upper limit of what they like to see during pregnancy. I'm more concerned that if I bring up the way that I'm feeling to my team 'o doctors they will want to hospitalise me. Ain't nobody got time for that.

[daniellelenora]

Are you suicidal or having dangerous thoughts? (I'm sure you know the drill of those questions.) I would really only see that being the reason for hospitalization.

[wishformore]

No, I'm just feeling unbalanced and frustrated. But I'm concerned that my Drs will overreact, but that could just be me overthinking everything. Surely they have dealt with hormonal women not feeling so great in the third trimester before. Idk.