I'm a little late to do this, but oh well. Life is hectic with a newborn! I don't have a birth story written out yet, I'll get to it eventually
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He's adorable....and while I haven't been pregnant or given birth yet, I know in the future when I do if I'm not able to have a normal vaginal delivery, I'm going to be VERY upset and probably cry about it profusely, so I'm guessing it's very much normal...you just can't let it run your life or you'll start resenting the baby or something, and that would not be fun... Hug him and love him and try to accept it and just move on I'd imagine. He's freaking adorable, I think I mentioned that already though :-P
I'm right there with you. I had a vaginal birth for my first child but there's always a constant worry that this pregnancy will end up with a c-section :/ All we can do is hope for the best- which is a happy and healthy baby! :)
Thanks, I'm a little biased thinking he is the cutest baby ever, haha. I cried for probably 24 hours straight, and then the weeks following up to the due date. The feelings changed once he was actually here, because I was holding my baby boy, but definitely still some underlying sadness!
Because my sisters have had to have c-sections due to a failure to dilate, I'm at ease with the thought of having to have one myself. To me.... the baby is outside of the stomach, so it was born one way or another.
I'm nearly 5 months post-partum after an unscheduled c-section; my boy was a face presentation, nearly impossible to deliver vaginally. To shorten the story, I got an epidural because they were going to break my water in the OR to prevent cord prolapse, but then my water broke on its own. They kept me on the epidural and hooked me up to oxytocin. I got to 10 cm and they let me push for an hour, but he didn't budge at all. Oh, and did I mention my epidural slipped out? :(
Intellectually, I know I did everything possible to get a vaginal delivery, but in my heart I still wonder if there was something that could have changed it. Some days I just get really down thinking about the birth I didn't have, mainly because it a step-by-step destruction of my birth plan: first no home birth, then no water birth, then no drug-free birth, then no vaginal birth. I still get jealous of other women who manage to have vaginal births, especially quick ones (took 36 hours to get from the first contraction to his birth).
He is one good looking boy! :) I love his little wrinkly forehead.
It is perfectly normal to feel jealous and sad about not having a vaginal birth. I was so very upset when my last pregnancy resulted in a c-section due to footling breech presentation. It really helps to talk about it to people who understand. Try contacting ICAN in your area and also just write about it for your own benefit. It was therapeutic for me to write my birth story. Try to avoid the people who will say; "At least you have a healthy baby, that is what matters." Well duh! Of course the healthy baby matters most, but it is normal to be disappointed that the birth did not go as planned.
His forehead gets so wrinkly! The back of his head is even worse, haha. I love it.
Yeah, I'm planning an afternoon where I can just cry and write it all down. Confiding in others is definitely helpful. I absolutely cannot stand that saying! Uggh!
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Hug him and love him and try to accept it and just move on I'd imagine.
He's freaking adorable, I think I mentioned that already though :-P
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Intellectually, I know I did everything possible to get a vaginal delivery, but in my heart I still wonder if there was something that could have changed it. Some days I just get really down thinking about the birth I didn't have, mainly because it a step-by-step destruction of my birth plan: first no home birth, then no water birth, then no drug-free birth, then no vaginal birth. I still get jealous of other women who manage to have vaginal births, especially quick ones (took 36 hours to get from the first contraction to his birth).
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It is perfectly normal to feel jealous and sad about not having a vaginal birth. I was so very upset when my last pregnancy resulted in a c-section due to footling breech presentation. It really helps to talk about it to people who understand. Try contacting ICAN in your area and also just write about it for your own benefit. It was therapeutic for me to write my birth story. Try to avoid the people who will say; "At least you have a healthy baby, that is what matters." Well duh! Of course the healthy baby matters most, but it is normal to be disappointed that the birth did not go as planned.
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Yeah, I'm planning an afternoon where I can just cry and write it all down. Confiding in others is definitely helpful. I absolutely cannot stand that saying! Uggh!
Glad to know i'm not alone!
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