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[preciousmin]

Have I become a person with dulled emotions? Have all the deaths I've had to go through worked it's way into that I don't even feel anything. I should be sad right now. I should be upset right now. But I'm not. I'm numb. The office adminstrator died in a car accident New Years day. I had been working with her for nearly a year. She helped me with

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[ostrich327]

You are not a bad person. This frequently happens to me -- either I won't cry until much later or I just won't cry at all. Not everyone handles grief the same way and the way you handle grief changes over your lifetime, so don't take not crying (even if you would have when you were younger) as a sign that you're becoming a bad person or even growing numb. There's a difference between how we feel (and how deeply we feel) something and how much we express it.

[enseetaratro]

I think you are probably shocked. A lot of times that stuff doesn't hit until later, especially when you have been through a lot of deaths or tragedies before. And there is nothing wrong with that. You might be protecting yourself subconsciously, or taking a little bit of time just to process the loss. It is alright to take time, it is certainly better than falling apart at the seams.

You are not a bad person. You are just a strong one.

Also, *hugs*. I'm sorry for your loss.

[pwiggily]

Maybe the situation just hasn't sunk in yet. Not to say that you need to cry over the accident, but this is a very sudden incident. Don't feel too bad about not crying; not all grieving needs to be the same way.

[braziliansnoopy]

First, I'm so sorry to hear that. Second, you're not at all a bad person. Everyone handles grief differently and you'll handle it differently for different people. Crying or not crying doesn't mean you care any more or less.

[pocket_cathy]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss, especially on the heels of so many others. So many bad things happening in such a short time span can affect people like that, but you'll get through it and be able to feel again. Similar things have been happening in the W-B household, and I know firsthand how hard it is. But it WILL get better. I promise.