DH's Grandmother

[popsbabypenguin]

DH got an email from his father Monday.  He was letting DH know that his grandmother had passed away sometime over the weekend.  (Don't get me started on how inappropriate it is to tell someone their family member has died over the internet...)  She lived in a nursing home, so she wasn't alone.  They know when she died, they just didn't bother to

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[buzzy_bee]

So sorry to hear about Dave's grandmother. However I am with you on the WTF. Never heard of not having a funeral (and we're Church of Scotland, so Presbyterian).

[geekette8]

My sincerest sympathies to Dave and the whole family. Also, I'm with Megan - DH's family are Presbyterian and certainly have entirely "normal" funerals.

[popsbabypenguin]

I was fairly certain that was the case. His mother has a lovely habit of announcing something as fact, even if she is just making it up. In this case, I think *their family* might not do traditional funerals... but the last time I checked she wasn't in charge of the Presbyterian Church.

And thank you both for your sympathy...

[anemone]

There wasn't a funeral for my grandmother or my grandfather. There was even much of a memorial or gathering for my grandmother. This isn't, though, because the family isn't close. They are pretty close, but none of them could really bear the thought of anything funeral-like.

[popsbabypenguin]

I could see not having a service if they were too heartbroken or if his grandmother didn't want one... Unfortunately, they seem to be treating it as an inconvenience.

[pigglet27]

I'm sorry to hear about D's grandmother.

As for a service, I guess it depends. My father doesn't want anything, no wake, no funeral and no memorial service. His approach is "If you couldn't be bothered to come and see me when I was alive, don't bother when I'm dead".

I'm with you, despite the relationship issues, the death of a family member is definitely something you share.

[popsbabypenguin]

Thanks... I honestly didn't think it was too unreasonable. Of course, since his grandmother just died, I tired not to make too big an issue of it... but wow...