Haven't done LJ in a week and I feel out of the loop. How does one get out of an online journal loop? Dunno, but I have managed to do it
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I don't think you have to be living together for that to happen... well, actually I *know* that it happens to me too (and I've never lived with a S/O). I wish I had some answers to it, but I really don't. :-( I would kill to have knock-down-drag-out-blow-off-the-doors sex sometime soon, but my desire just isn't there... buried under stress, schoolwork, boredom, death-flu...
Damn... if you figure out an answer, clue me in, 'kay?
Thanks for being so honest. I'm glad it's not just me. I sometimes wonder about the whole "how much is enough" question. I suppose one could say as much as you're having is enough, but I don't think that's true. Not to burst any bubbles, but, I should mention, of those 4 years of single, 3.5 were spent in grad school--there's a reason why in that survey PhDs have less sex than adults who barely finished high school. Sorry, I suppose that didn't help.
doors are good. :) Vicki Iovine says that if you have time for sex, you have time for a nap, which seems to be the way new mothers think as shown by a recent informal poll of new mommy friends.
Well, I certainly appreciate the sacrifices you made to come out last night! (there is a pun in there, but I am ignoring it for the facade of propriety) It was nice chatting with you guys. I can imagine the house guests thing becoming difficult, especially when they are stacked up the way yours sound. Fortunately for me, having guests never really effects my lifestyle since they sleep upstairs and I down. Of course, I am not involved in a relationship right now, so the point is really moot
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I had a good time hanging with you too. Maybe SoS we can chat some more (depending on guest plans).
Truth is, I have no problem initiating sex, I think it's more about getting our rhythms right or something. Actually, I think it has a lot to do with me being afraid of falling into old patterns that resembled the way things were during round 1 of my relationship with J. I still haven't quite gotten over the having been dumped thing and being afraid of repeating past mistakes. Sigh. I can't really explain it yet, but I do know it will work itself out because I'm a child of therapy and nothing slightly wonky can stay that way if I can talk or think my way out of it.
Yeah, I totally undertstand that. It would be very hard for me to get back into one of my past relationships and not fall right back into the same patterns. But, it sounds like you have made a lot of progress so far...
Yeah, I am hoping that my studying will be done in time for me to go to SoS, wherever it ends up being.
I'm not suprised given what you've hinted at regarding your hubby's sex drive... If only J could get a little of that action. He's more of a once a week sort fo guy and I'd be happier on AT LEAST every other day.
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Damn... if you figure out an answer, clue me in, 'kay?
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Truth is, I have no problem initiating sex, I think it's more about getting our rhythms right or something. Actually, I think it has a lot to do with me being afraid of falling into old patterns that resembled the way things were during round 1 of my relationship with J. I still haven't quite gotten over the having been dumped thing and being afraid of repeating past mistakes. Sigh. I can't really explain it yet, but I do know it will work itself out because I'm a child of therapy and nothing slightly wonky can stay that way if I can talk or think my way out of it.
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Yeah, I am hoping that my studying will be done in time for me to go to SoS, wherever it ends up being.
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We had sex up until the night I went into labor. Three months after birth, we were back to normal speed.
I had to learn to be quiet, but Will slept over enough at my parents' house. I had practice.
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