It's good that you are trying to gain grounds for some fairness for yourself. He really hasn't given you any warning at all, and that is not right...not in a marriage. He has no right to say he decided on things without you - whether he likes it or not! He owes you more than that.
One thing about his sister...Since she called him and seemed eager about the divorce thing, do you think she might have planted the idea?? I think you should get to the bottom of this between them. If their mother doesn't know this yet, TELL HER! Whatever it is will come out...it might be explosive, but your SIL has NO RIGHT to plot your divorce with her brother! *stabs OMG*
Thanks for keeping us posted, luv. I know this is such a difficult time for you. *hugs tight*
**Since she called him and seemed eager about the divorce thing, do you think she might have planted the idea??**
Ooooh! I never thought of that!!! Thank you for bringing it up, baby!
Oh - did your picture mail show up on your camera yet? That is the diamond. I swear to God, if anything goes awry, that baby is getting HOCKED!!!! *I just have to look for the certificate - it is either here or with my parents.*
Lastly - girl, THANK YOU for using that icon! You KNOW how that makes me laugh!!! *HUGS* Thank you baby! (PS I know of a Pippin cap I would love made into an icon like that - would you want to do it for me? Pwease? *Bats eyelashes prettily* LOL! LOVE YOU!!!!!!
**Since she called him and seemed eager about the divorce thing, do you think she might have planted the idea??**
Ooooh! I never thought of that!!! Thank you for bringing it up, baby!
While I do agree that you need to find out if/how big a part the SIL has in this, you should be extremely careful when doing it, and weigh your words all the time. You may not mean anything particularly nasty with what you're saying, but she - and your husband - may take it differently. It's only been a couple of days at the most since he wanted a divorce, if he (or she) gets it in his head again that getting a divorce is the only thing to do, then your work for a reconciliation/therapy thing may have been in wain.
I hope I don't sound harsh and mean with this, but I know that family can be your worst enemy at times. And she's already siding with him against you, and support whatever he does. Don't give her more cannon fire.
Oh God yes, definitely would I be careful! *HUGS CHRIS TIGHT* No worries there! Actually, I have asked Eric and he swears that's not where he got it at all.
Also, actually, I think things are possibly getting better - check the newest post ( here )
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One thing about his sister...Since she called him and seemed eager about the divorce thing, do you think she might have planted the idea?? I think you should get to the bottom of this between them. If their mother doesn't know this yet, TELL HER! Whatever it is will come out...it might be explosive, but your SIL has NO RIGHT to plot your divorce with her brother! *stabs OMG*
Thanks for keeping us posted, luv. I know this is such a difficult time for you. *hugs tight*
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Ooooh! I never thought of that!!! Thank you for bringing it up, baby!
Oh - did your picture mail show up on your camera yet? That is the diamond. I swear to God, if anything goes awry, that baby is getting HOCKED!!!! *I just have to look for the certificate - it is either here or with my parents.*
Lastly - girl, THANK YOU for using that icon! You KNOW how that makes me laugh!!! *HUGS* Thank you baby! (PS I know of a Pippin cap I would love made into an icon like that - would you want to do it for me? Pwease? *Bats eyelashes prettily* LOL! LOVE YOU!!!!!!
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Ooooh! I never thought of that!!! Thank you for bringing it up, baby!
While I do agree that you need to find out if/how big a part the SIL has in this, you should be extremely careful when doing it, and weigh your words all the time. You may not mean anything particularly nasty with what you're saying, but she - and your husband - may take it differently. It's only been a couple of days at the most since he wanted a divorce, if he (or she) gets it in his head again that getting a divorce is the only thing to do, then your work for a reconciliation/therapy thing may have been in wain.
I hope I don't sound harsh and mean with this, but I know that family can be your worst enemy at times. And she's already siding with him against you, and support whatever he does. Don't give her more cannon fire.
*hugs*
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Also, actually, I think things are possibly getting better - check the newest post ( here )
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