Update
I think I have talked him out of divorcing (For now anyway) and to let us work this out and try to save the marriage. Basically, what I said we should do (Out of fairness for me, as this was thrown right at me) is that we would put the divorce talk on the back burner, try different things that we haven't before (separately) and see if that can strengthen things. Why the hell can't he see me in the future if he wants to try different things? If there isn't another woman, why can't I be a part of certain things, and he can have other things for himself? What the hell is wrong with that picture?
The thing that bugged me the most today is that we were having Chinese for lunch, and his sister called - from his answers to her, she must have asked if he filed yet (no) and if he was okay with it (Yeah). Fucking bitch! (Sorry, I know I shouldn't speak of his family like that).
Oh, and he was trying of he - himself - still throwing 4th of July at our house this year when we were in the grocery store looking at spare ribs. He told this to a friend of his on the phone earlier this week. I nearly threw a fit there in the store - I stopped him and said that I would be there too, dammit! He said, "I know! I never said you wouldn't!"
All I know is, this better be just a phase. He is a freakin' stubborn Swede, and that is coming out full force. And yes, I am )PMSing, so that makes things a bit more magnified, but dammit, I have a right to be upset too. He keeps saying he does love me (just not like 'that' anymore). He knows that this hurts, and he says he doesn't want to, but he does it anyway.
Lastly - I had felt like this a looooooong time myself in this marriage. I never said it to him until today. I knew we rushed things, and the wedding was NOT what it should have been AT ALL. BUT, I have come around. I KNOW what I am here for. He needs to do that too.
The thing that bugged me the most today is that we were having Chinese for lunch, and his sister called - from his answers to her, she must have asked if he filed yet (no) and if he was okay with it (Yeah). Fucking bitch! (Sorry, I know I shouldn't speak of his family like that).
Oh, and he was trying of he - himself - still throwing 4th of July at our house this year when we were in the grocery store looking at spare ribs. He told this to a friend of his on the phone earlier this week. I nearly threw a fit there in the store - I stopped him and said that I would be there too, dammit! He said, "I know! I never said you wouldn't!"
All I know is, this better be just a phase. He is a freakin' stubborn Swede, and that is coming out full force. And yes, I am )PMSing, so that makes things a bit more magnified, but dammit, I have a right to be upset too. He keeps saying he does love me (just not like 'that' anymore). He knows that this hurts, and he says he doesn't want to, but he does it anyway.
Lastly - I had felt like this a looooooong time myself in this marriage. I never said it to him until today. I knew we rushed things, and the wedding was NOT what it should have been AT ALL. BUT, I have come around. I KNOW what I am here for. He needs to do that too.