Party On!

[pigshitpoet]

GF is making a memorial BBQ for Nardo, who passed from this world two months ago, which is kind of surreal.

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[gonzo21]

She's gotta do what she's gotta do to heal, and it's good that she's doing things, and not just sitting paralysed in grief. So yeah, weird, but probably healthy for her.

Sad old situation eh.

GF sadness

[pigshitpoet]

yeah, that's true, she'll do what she needs to.
i think i'm the one that has to get over it.
; P

Re: GF sadness

[gonzo21]

That's an interesting observation, yes, maybe you are.

Re: GF sadness

[pigshitpoet]

well, i've got friends to talk to. that helps
; )

[ravena_kade]

I didn't know there were northern diamond mines.

I hope GR find peace and what she is doing will heal her.

And you should not think twice about not attending those things she is planning. You are not a hypocrite. Often when peopled they become saints. I miss an love my Mom but I know she was a pain in the ass too. I admit it.

[pigshitpoet]

it's on an island on a lake in 50 below

it will take time for GF, but with losing a family member, as you know with your mom, i think there is always an empty attachment to deal with.

yeah, i know. i want to support her, but i don't relate to him, so that's always difficult

[gale_storm]

Well, you don't really need to grieve at his passing by emotionally supporting her in her grief. (So says the chick who has never been in any situation vaguely resembling this!) I mean, sure as shit, she's going to grieve her son taking his own life, and that is beyond reasonable for a mother to do. The grief is going to pop up in her for a long time to come, too, as these things don't have an expiration date. So, do what you feel you can for her, and don't stretch yourself too thin, as over-stretched rubberbands have a way of hitting us in the eye.

these things don't have an expiration date

[pigshitpoet]

i haven't been quite able to celebrate his passing in anyway, i'm torn about it. i feel sorry for him, but i felt he was a real asshole. GFs doing the mom thing, that's understandable, and she needs room to process that.

jokingly, we didn't know that nardo came with an expiration date...
; P

[meowmensteen]

I can imagine one of the biggest parts of grief for a mother losing a child is losing all the years and sacrifice you invested in that person. Motherhood kind of defines you in a way, and losing part of that definition can be big. So it might not all be because of Nardo, but what he represents to her.

[meowmensteen]

Of course, now thinking about it. In a way that's probably what you're dealing with too. Processing the loss of all the investment you put into him. Even if you did it more reluctantly, you did put time and money, and a lot of heartache into that guy. And for what? That's a huge loss.

[pigshitpoet]

well, i guess it gave him 5 more years of life than he seemed destined for..
but was it quality of life or just prolonging his agony?
i don't know..

the biggest parts of grief for a mother losing a child

[pigshitpoet]

that's what GF says too

[greeneyedsadie]

I hate parties, so I'm with you.

What's her GoFundMe link? You can PM me if you want.

I hope she can get past it eventually, but losing a child is horrible.

[pigshitpoet]

yes, thanks
i can get you the link.