Roommate Redux

[phirefly]

I really feel like I'm doing Kaydie a disservice with what I've posted about her so far. We've had some great conversations; I can tell there's a smart, capable person somewhere inside of her. Unfortunately, she doesn't let that side show much. The more time I spend with her, the more I'm convinced this is a choice, that she prefers to be this

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[dieppe]

Doesn't it suck having to be the adult? >.<

[phirefly]

Yeah. Think we're going to have a talk tonight which will mostly consist of me telling her that I have no desire to live with a child and that unless she takes some effort to start acting like an adult in visible, noticeable ways, she needs to find somewhere else to live right quick.

It'll be fun!

[somnus_aria]

The fact that she spends a lot of her time playing games seems like a big issue as well. Addictive timesinks are pretty unhealthy for the self pitying unemployed because it becomes too much of a crutch for them. I've seen it become like a chemical dependency on a man I know in a very similar situation to Kaydie. If you could somehow encourage her to invest her time in things that require a bit more mental effort, like reading, it might help her out a lot. Of course, there's no assurance she'll take any such advice...I find those addicted to their games are awful protective of them when they've convinced themselves that it's the only thing they have.

Still, it might be worth trying.

[phirefly]

The point is that I shouldn't have to tell her what to do. I shouldn't have to encourage her to pick up adult habits. I shouldn't have to police her behavior in any way. I don't want to. It's hard enough picking up good habits for myself.