I was always such a good boy. Till I left home. Perhaps I'm unusual, but I cut my mom off to 2-3 visits per year. She also learned that attempting to guilt me is like trying to buy a house in pennies.
My mom, at least, is far less crazy and judgemental when she realizes that if she annoys me, she won't see me again till I'm done being annoyed with her in 6-18 months.
Sometimes I think it's a generational thing. My mother is in her 60s and I think her mother used the same methods on her. Even though she has learned there are better ways to communicate (and persuade), she tends to fall back on the old heavy-handed coercive habits.
My only take-away from these situations is try to find out what her expectations are in advance and try to negotiate things out. She still tries the guilt method, but at least I can cut it off before she feels her reputation is at stake.
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My mom, at least, is far less crazy and judgemental when she realizes that if she annoys me, she won't see me again till I'm done being annoyed with her in 6-18 months.
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My only take-away from these situations is try to find out what her expectations are in advance and try to negotiate things out. She still tries the guilt method, but at least I can cut it off before she feels her reputation is at stake.
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