* There is not going to be a SlutWalk in Christchurch; council consent couldn't be obtained.This despite the fact that DV stats have gone up considerably
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The type of feminism I subscribe to is the 'radical notion that women are people' one. And I see absolutely no reason why any person should be excluded from having that notion.
So as far as I'm concerned, anyone can be a feminist and I get pissed off sometimes with the identity politics that seem rife within some circles, which seem unnecessarily exclusive to me.
On SlutWalk: Civil disobedience is something I've seen called for a bit lately in this country.
Whatever set of pronouns you want to be referred to as, I will refer to you by. You've never actually fit a singular pronoun in my head, Kei, and you know gracious well why, lol
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Gender/sexual id, seriously seriously, I used to angst about it until one day I just went "oh fuck it, I'm me, and I like people". Angst disappears and hasn't come back, though it could be because I'm more drawn to personalities first, then gender.
Toady's feminists or the vocal bunch who calls themselves such anyway are just being massive *insert rude word*, when they decide to play nice with the rest of humanity instead of going "rawr my box" I'll spend my braincells on them or maybe call myself a feminist. Because being a feminist isn't about boxing yourself in, it's getting out of the box society put you in.
I like queer. It can make things a lot more simple when you don't feel like other labels really work or are too complicated.
I hear you on being able to be yourself and present the way you want online. It's freeing to be able to do that and not have to worry as much about being read wrong because of how you look or people's previous knowledge of you.
I also hear you on identifying as feminist. That's something that's a little hard for me, because supporting feminism has always been very important to me, and until I came to identify as genderqueer, I never would have hesitated in calling myself a feminist. I still don't know how I should handle that, to be honest.
I've been pondering gender and sexual identification Ahem, no, not really ;) But last year at my sisters (second) wedding I met an old friend from school. She was a real beauty back then, and still is, and most boys adored her. So at the wedding she told me that she struggled nearly ten years with her sexuality, or the lack thereoff. Somehow she had felt obligated to find herself a boyfriend like her sisters had. But each time she had, and tried a relationship, it failed dramatically. She said she really loved those guys, but everything intimate was horrible for her. Her parents didn't understand what was going on, and even told her that they were totally ok if she was a lesbian. Finally she found a counselor and realized that she "simply" wasn't a "sexual being". Now she isn't looking for a relationship anymore, has her little wool-shop, her circle of friends, and when someone wants to date her, she tells them she isn't ready for that. I hope she will someday find someone who loves her and respect that she is how she is.
I recall reading the results of a study that found a surprisingly high rate of teenage pregnancy among lesbians (I have a feeling it was higher than het girls but can't remember for sure), with the assumption being that they engage in more risky behaviour in an attempt to fit in when they're young. I can only imagine the same applies to asexuals - I know I had a fair amount of sex that I most certainly wouldn't have if I'd absorbed the idea that it was perfectly fine to simply not be interested. And of course if you're trying to prove you're "normal" you might be more willing to overlook things like a lack of condoms.
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So as far as I'm concerned, anyone can be a feminist and I get pissed off sometimes with the identity politics that seem rife within some circles, which seem unnecessarily exclusive to me.
On SlutWalk: Civil disobedience is something I've seen called for a bit lately in this country.
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Toady's feminists or the vocal bunch who calls themselves such anyway are just being massive *insert rude word*, when they decide to play nice with the rest of humanity instead of going "rawr my box" I'll spend my braincells on them or maybe call myself a feminist. Because being a feminist isn't about boxing yourself in, it's getting out of the box society put you in.
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I hear you on being able to be yourself and present the way you want online. It's freeing to be able to do that and not have to worry as much about being read wrong because of how you look or people's previous knowledge of you.
I also hear you on identifying as feminist. That's something that's a little hard for me, because supporting feminism has always been very important to me, and until I came to identify as genderqueer, I never would have hesitated in calling myself a feminist. I still don't know how I should handle that, to be honest.
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Ahem, no, not really ;) But last year at my sisters (second) wedding I met an old friend from school. She was a real beauty back then, and still is, and most boys adored her. So at the wedding she told me that she struggled nearly ten years with her sexuality, or the lack thereoff. Somehow she had felt obligated to find herself a boyfriend like her sisters had. But each time she had, and tried a relationship, it failed dramatically. She said she really loved those guys, but everything intimate was horrible for her. Her parents didn't understand what was going on, and even told her that they were totally ok if she was a lesbian. Finally she found a counselor and realized that she "simply" wasn't a "sexual being". Now she isn't looking for a relationship anymore, has her little wool-shop, her circle of friends, and when someone wants to date her, she tells them she isn't ready for that. I hope she will someday find someone who loves her and respect that she is how she is.
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