Oh hey guys

[petrichor_fizz]

Hi everyone! I'm busily "working on my essay and revising for my exams" (read: eating Pringles and surfing the net), but I found this article which I think is really interesting: Why do lesbians love gay porn?

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[inlaterdays]

For example, I find Lisa Edelstein attractive. I can't say the same about Cuddy.

SAMESAMESAME OMG. I didn't think anyone else felt this way.

I think I don't read much femslash because it falls in that weird space between fantasy and realism for me. I like m/m slash because it lets me exercise my imagination and explore the "male" side of my sexuality by identifying with male characters. (I'll fantasize or dream about female characters, though.) And I like lesbian erotica or original fiction/novels but not male gay erotica.

Maybe I'm just weird. I think we're all wired uniquely, sexually speaking.

Thank you for the link and the thought-provoking post.

[petrichor_fizz]

I'd pretty much agree with that (except I haven't actually been in a sexual relationship with a woman yet, LAME) - definitely I think M/M slash is, for me, about exploring something I'll never be able to do in real life - pure fantasy, essentially

[inlaterdays]

It's not lame! It will happen when it happens, it doesn't make your sexuality any less what it is.

TOTALLY agree about the non-genital focus. I've always said that I fall in love with people, not with plumbing.

[petrichor_fizz]

It is lame in that I would like one :( My gay boyfriend clearly thinks I'm a straighty masquerading as bi, but I just have bad taste in women. So far one was straight, one was closeted (she was into me, but she was a] crazy and b] reluctant to act on it), one has gone to Canada for a year and... well, the rest are fairly unattainable in that they are either fictional characters or famous people. I did meet an out bi girl I really liked, but nothing came of it in the end... anyway, yes. Lame.

[karaokegal]

I'm printing out the article and your thoughts so I can say something cogent about it one of these days.

In the meantime...The Squeeee Odyssey will be in Birmingham by next Tuesday afternoon, on Weds and Thurs and then in London on Friday and Saturday.

If you want to hook up at any point in there, you can PM or email me a number to reach you at.

[petrichor_fizz]

Fantastic! I will do so - I have exams until the 15th so London would be good.

Please let me know what you think about my ramblings if you get a chance! No pressure though. Ramblings is rambly.

[karaokegal]

I'm so rambly and scattered now myself. I'm putting together a portfolio of goodies to read on my various plane/train trips, so I might put it in there and we can talk about it---preferably loudly and in a public place---when it get there. :)

[triedunture]

Imma go ahead and agree. As a chittlin, it seemed pretty plain to me that boys got the better deal, society-wise, and shit, they were even allowed to touch ladies in their special places when they grew up!? I WANTED ALL THAT, PLZ. I'd also like to, you know, pretend that sex is really fun and stupid and rawr (all guy things). So yeah, once in awhile, gay porn is where it's at. And for all the other times, I guess there's slash?

[petrichor_fizz]

Ah, the ladies' special places. Sigh.

Yep, I got over wanting to be a boy, but thinking about ladies and perving on man-sex is all still good clean fun.

[cirrocumulus]

That was a really interesting article, thanks for linking. I'm woefully heterosexual but I'm really fascinated by reading these kinds of speculation and analyses of homosexuality's more psychological presentations (if that makes any sense, I can't exactly explain it). I don't think that nearly enough scientific inquiry is being devoted to the fluidity of sexuality-- all the studies that involve homosexuality are so dualistic and don't take bisexuality or any kind of sexual ambiguity into it at all and I think that there's so much to explore about sexuality that a lot of scientists don't seem interested in exploring right now

[petrichor_fizz]

Sorry about the late reply! I'm been panicking about my essay. Not actually doing any work, mind.

Given that I identify as bisexual myself I do find it troubling that bisexuality is something that's treated with such scepticism, both in the gay and the scientific communities - I think it's quite possible that there is a neurological predisposition to be attracted to a certain sex, but desire is such a complex thing - isn't it possible that emotional/social aspects could override the "wiring" of your brain? I suppose that's a dangerous line of thought because, to follow that argument to its logical conclusion, you could say that homosexuality can be 'overcome', but personally I think that's another kettle of fish. If I'm happy and comfortable being attracted to both sexes, what harm, even if it does go against the "way my brain is wired

[cirrocumulus]

I've always thought that sexuality cannot be solely run by genes. It's just far, far too complicated for that. The mind itself is really just so enigmatic and unpredictable that I'm not sure what rules it runs on at all, but yes, it's definitely just more than genetics. I've never been afraid of saying that sexuality has psychological and emotional aspects for two reasons: 1) just because it's psychological and/or emotional doesn't make it easy to "overcome," or change, really. Maybe it's just me, but I find my subconscious basically impossible to direct, no matter what the issue is, so I don't think that sexuality having psychological components would make it any easier to influence than if it were purely genetic

[petrichor_fizz]

Hey! Sorry if it looked like I was ignoring your comment so as to avoid reading your stuff. I've had a mad week - essay, two exams, night in London - so I haven't had a chance to check it out, but I will read it shortly and have a think about it. I'm reading a lot of gender babbling at the moment (yay) so I love this kind of thing. Also nice to have discussions about gender that don't involve any of the following phrases: "you're a bit of a feminist, aren't you"; "you're reading too much into it"; "women are equal now, you need to get over it".

[tasha_elizabeth]

Slightly off topic, but hear hear about Jordan from Studio 60, she's one of my favorite female television characters ever.

[petrichor_fizz]

I'm completely in love with her. It's quite pathetic.