Prayers answered!

[pecosdave]

After another full day of witnessing before the judge and stating our case, the judge granted my parents custody. "Technicaly" I lost. This is fine, my baby is safe now, and I think the judge was able to see the truth, but wasn't going to completely over rule her associate judge. I am still under the protective order, this is fine, I don't want

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[nin_man]

Thank god.

[plblark]

Not as much as I prayed for, but more than I dared hope. This is at least a step in the right direction. I think the Anger management classes and parenting classes are ways for the new judge to overrule the old judge without slapping him in the face. This way she can point to steps you have taken to improve yourself as a parent. AND by doing them voluntarily you show her respect and some personal initiative.

I'm so glad your daughter is safe!

That's dangerous advice

[slamlander]

the legal system isn't reasonable.

Re: That's dangerous advice

[plblark]

so it's dangerous to show that you care enough about your children to take anger management and parenting classes, possibly enriching yourself, but definitely showing initiative? IT's dangerous to possibly learn something in said classes? It's dangerous to take every opportunity to better yourself and stack the deck in your favor?

Remember, Judges' personalities are not supposed to play a part, but they often do.

perhaps I'm jaded, I've certainly never been through it.

[plblark]

I like your idea about an independant psych. Heck, find your own parenting classes too. I just think that both steps could turn out to be cards in his favor. Heck, go to an independant anger management class and keep extensive notes or have them sent to the judge?

It seems to me that the good way to go is to cautiously comply with her suggestions while protecting yourself by insuring you're dealing with an unbiased source.

I am woried hough about the admission of having an anger problem being the first step to truew recovery, and what strength that could give to the opposition.

Good news

[salegamine]

Not as good as hoped for, but still better than it could have been.
I'm very glad your daughter is safe and I'm sure that your parents will take good care of her.
I'll continue praying that you may one day actually have her in your custody and attentive care.
{{{Pecosdave}}}
Taking the advised classes is a good idea. Knowing you for the big teddy bear you are, a psychologist able to testify on your behalf about that will no doubt be a big help.

A question for slamlander

[plblark]

Isn't this the same advice I gave? and yet mine got labeled dangerous?

Ok, it looks strange

[salegamine]

Partly that's because of offline communication.
He told me the same as he told you, but excused me for ignorence of the US system. He did say I might want to add the admendement saying that it should be an independent evaluation, not one does by state run facilities.

Yeah, Slamlander and I don't have offline communication

[plblark]

I figured it was something like that.

It looks like you got round 1, congrats!

[slamlander]

I also took a peek at the web site ... eh! With an opponent that dumb this should be a slam-dunk case. Y'all *are* in TX, non? ... and she left that site online?!?! Glory be

is it Friday?

[plblark]

I'm glad you didn't say: I ,Despite Opinions, Am Not A Lawyer

Re: is it Friday?

[slamlander]

I may not be a lawyre but, when I went through it I took extensive notes. I also burnt through four attorneys.

That's the other part of that lesson, always remember who your attorney is *supposed* to work for and NEVER trust them to do everything possible. They can get as lazy as anyone else. They aren't the one's paying the consequences and they can and do slack off.

yep, makes sense

[plblark]

did you even convert it to an acronym? it was a joke :-) Gutter friday was supposed to be a clue, but since you haven't been on UF in awhile I guess I misplaced it :-(

[darth_sane]

Good luck on the rest of your fight.

I lost mine in the round you just won.

I haven't seen my son since.

And State anger managment "courses" seem to be oriented at painting you as unstable and wildly out of control. Listen to SL and get an independent psych to state on paper that you don't have anger issues.

For parenting courses, go to a local Community College, not the state. Same thing, state courses are oriented at making you look bad.

I'm so sorry to hear that

[salegamine]

If it will not offend you, may I add you and your son to my prayer list?

Re: I'm so sorry to hear that

[darth_sane]

Prayers for good things are never offensive, no matter whom they are to.

I would appreciate that.

Done.

[salegamine]

{{{Darth_Sane}}}
I hope a happy resolution awaits you and your son.