Feedback please

[tyresias]

W-a-y too long ago, I posted and earlier version of this pamphlet aimed at partners of trans people. Then life happened as it usually does and it fell on the back burner. But I've got a bit more free time these days so I went back to it. I've already run it by a few people I know in the real world but I was hoping others on here could take a look

Comments

[tyresias]

Would helping with make up or putting on breasts be better examples?

[alimaemia]

I like it. Although I guess I would have changed it when I was editing if I hadn't.

I would just add right at the end on HRT is never an excuse for physical or sexual abuse I would also add emotional. Just because I feel like Charlie at least has been mean (never abusive) and then said it was because his shot day was the next day, so there's a fine line.

Other than that... I don't think there's anything else.

[tyresias]

Thank you again for all the help :)

Can do, it's a good point. Is the patient resting at all? What are you two up to today? Oliver (French from France) is in town for the weekend visiting from Halifax. Michael and I are taking him out this evening, if he feels up to it, you two should join us.

OK

[tyresias]

I've done some substantial revisions (and posted the revised copy on here). What say ye?

Re: OK

[alimaemia]

Oh, and at the beginning you say ...potentially unfair expectations of partners, as well as few resources and tips. it should say something like "some resources and tips". "If can build the communication... that whole sentence doesn't really make sense grammatically.

[katttg]

I think that it's a great basic info pamphlet. The only thing is a minor grammatical thing: "What if your partner is done medical transition" should be rephrased. Maybe What if you partner has done a medical transition.

Also, is there a way to make the section on resources bigger? I know for me, that I was really familiar with the basics but I had absolutely no idea where to find support for myself.

[tyresias]

*nod* that's a good point. (I'll do it on the original file rather than continously update the one on here with all the tweaks.)

Are there any other online ones you have to suggest? Any book that stand out in particular to you perhaps?

[tyresias]

I've edited the entry to reflect a further revised copy based on all the feedback. Thank you!

:)

[venusfire777]

I think this is great! Well done. I like the concept of your graphic. :)
My only comments are grammatical and not content related. I agree with the above posts: wording on What if your partner "is done medical transition" can be "has completed medical transitioning". or something. There is also inconsistent punctuation; sometimes you use a period at the end of a bullet and other times not.
I think this is very complete other than possibly including more resources. You may want to specifiy the city that SOFFA grp meets in because I can see this pamphlet being used outside of your town. It is very needed. :)

Re: :)

[tyresias]

Thank you!

Ok, I've made the punctuation consistent. I've updated the resource sections (as it turns out the group became a one-on-one peer support.)

The reason I decided to do this is because in my 1st relationship after starting T, my ex constantly complained that there was very little geared towards her, and it was always aimed at trans people. So I tried to put myself in her shoes and see what I could find. Realising that she had understated the lack of resources, and after attending a workshop on a study done on abused female partners of FTM, I decided to put this together.

[ambientcopper]

I agree with the previous comment that it could use a few more resources if you can find them. Maybe something like "contact your local queer alliance or equivalent group" or refer to some websites.

Also, just in general, you've got a lot of really negative and occasionally scary stuff. Maybe you could nix some of that in favor of expanding the "tips" and "ways to be supportive" sections?

Speaking as someone who's still somewhat new to the whole thing, it can get pretty discouraging, and a few more words of hope and encouragement would be helpful.

In the same "scary" note, perhaps the section "unreasonable requests that may lead to abuse" could be changed to just "unreasonable requests"? I'm not sure why these things would lead to abuse, and saying it almost implies that abuse is a common thing that happens that you have to watch out for. It's a pretty alarming thing to read if your partner has just come out.

[tyresias]

Ok, I've edited the entry to reflect the editing based on the feedback from this community. Thank you so much!

As I explained to the person above you, the reason for warning of potential abuse was due to attending a workshop outlining the findings from a study done on female partners of FTMs who had been abused. Their pain and appeal for support was dismissed and unjustly labelled as transphobic or falling short of being allies. Sadly, I continue to witness this all the time. I did revisit both the beginning and end bits of the pamphlet with your feedback in mind because obviously it's not all bad and people like yourself and my girlfriend are testament to the many joys of dating trans people.