Comments | parentingjoy: Mommy Buddy System

parentingjoy

Mommy Buddy System

Nov 09, 2006 15:09

Sometimes I think it would be so useful to have a Mommy Buddy System for new moms. Yeah, there are so many online forum these days but it is just not the same as having someone physically around to buddy you. Besides, not everyone has access to the internet and not everyone is internet savvy ( Read more... )

thinking out loud

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happyqile November 9 2006, 07:30:47 UTC

there is an "adopt a mom" pg/bfg community on lj, but that also requires some internet savvy to get connected first. a friend was telling me about her neighbour going into PND coz she felt so shut off from the world, i gave her the support groups urls, etc and she came back and said the mom had no pc at home.

i guess being pc-literate and having internet access is so crucial to staying 'connected' and keeping one's sanity!

parentingjoy November 9 2006, 10:53:06 UTC

I know. But what about those who don't have internet or are not the kind who constant seek information or support through the net?

I don't know whether is this a 'paiseh' culture - one is too paiseh to cry out for help; others too paiseh to budge in to help.

happyqile November 9 2006, 11:24:13 UTC

think depends on how well one knows the other party? i have been mother hen to a few new moms (but that's because i know them), they are now in turn mother hens to other new moms. but like u said, sometimes ppl don't appreciate or don't feel comfortable receiving help. so if u don't know other party well, err on the side of caution rather than go in and then they say you kpo...

parentingjoy November 10 2006, 04:44:23 UTC

This is what I mean loh - the paiseh culture. Paiseh to ask for help, paiseh to offer help.

wombat76 November 10 2006, 04:16:54 UTC

Agree with you. I benefitted so much from my sisters' advice and encouragement the 1st time round. I still remember each 1 of them taking turns daily to call and check up on me. So I try to pay it forward by being a support to other new moms in church, amoung my friends etc.

parentingjoy November 10 2006, 04:46:02 UTC

You are so blessed to have such helpful sisters!

When my friends become moms, unless we are really close, I feel a bit hesitant about offering help because it might come across as being very imposing.

wombat76 November 10 2006, 06:09:13 UTC

Know what you mean. Usually I will 1st call/SMS to ask how they are, and just offer to help in any way I can. Whether they take it or not then depends on them. But most times I find they will take it up. Guess quite alot of people dun have that much support nowadays.