My Mum Says....

[orangejava]

Every morning, my mum will tell me something... About it's never really about anything good.

"Why is your room so messy?"

"Why are you going out so late?"

"Why are you wearing black at night?"

"How come now still no gf."

"Why did you waste money buy this magazine?"

I gave up explaining, or trying to explain after a while. Every single day, I am

Comments

[elmos_world]

i think moving out would help the relationship a lot more.

Especially if your parents behaviour now are causing u to retreat and withdraw from them.

By removing the daily annoyances, you may find that the relationship will improve. You may end up feeling more at ease and being more open towards them. In doing so, you can continue to care for them, even though you may not be staying with them any more.

[orangejava]

I did think about this, but could imagine that my mum would be very heartbroken actually.

[waterbreaker]

erm not sure if this helps, cos we all know moms are hard to deal with. what i do is role reversal, ie i be the nagging one. i will go and nag at her before she can start anything on me, so much that she will ask me to be quiet so she can watch her tv in peace.

sometimes, i feel that they just need attention and an excuse to make some noise. no offense to anyone but usually females at their age are more susceptible to that. *shudders*

[orangejava]

Okay, I will try that!

[garethcarrot]

hahaha... omg.. waterbreaker is more auntie than his mum....

Well, just remember that she nags u because she loves u.

[shadesofhue]

I am thankful my mum is still nagging at me, and I live in fear of the day she stops doing so. =)

[orangejava]

Thanks for the reminder. Hope you are good. =)

[andi_dreamz]

most mums are like tat.

it is a way of showin their care and concern.

I will volunteer information like wat time will i be home - working late or going out, where will i be going with who etc...

[remirth]

I guess its the same everywhere? I struggled a lot with the same experience. I too, chose silence. Until I realize, it does not work. I guess even family ties need lotsa work. So I broke the silence, and I choose the right time to talk abt matters like that. These days, my mum knows how to read my cues. E.G. no nagging in the morning or when I am in a bad mood (luckily very minimal). And I find myself having more space to breath? Moving out is an option. I guess... I just kept it as Plan B. =)