Let's talk about buttsex.
anonymous
April 20 2009, 18:17:05 UTC
All the talk of tops and bottoms and fandom chewing on itself over who is penetrating who has kinda brought up something that's always bugged me: why does slash fandom worship anal sex so much? Of all the possible very sexy things two attractive men could be doing to one another...why that one? A substantial number of real gay men don't even have anal sex
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anonymous
April 20 2009, 21:25:12 UTC
That's not true. I've read fics where one of them has hangups and the other one, who don't, bottoms. And fics where both of them have hangups and they do other things instead.
And I personally enjoy reading about characters who have hangups or aversions getting penetrated, especially if they're still not sure if they enjoyed it or not afterwards.
Re: Let's talk about buttsex.
anonymous
April 20 2009, 21:09:40 UTC
I actually love buttsex, but love frottage and oral and handjobs and stuff too. I don't know why buttsex would be the beat all end all of all of that, but I can tell you why I like it makes just about as much sense as why anyone enjoys reading about an act like sex: because it turns me on. I know I've written at least one frottage fic for this meme, but hey, if this discussion prompts some more of that sorta thing, bring on the sexy! drool...
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anonymous
April 28 2009, 07:39:42 UTC
Maybe for the same reason there's always some kind of vaginal penetration included in het porn (no, not all women are always in the mood for penetration... or maybe that's just me), whatever reason that is. Or maybe it's simply because the prostate is best reached through the ass, and the writer wants to include all of the classic pleasure points in their fic, kinda like the fondle/suck tits - stimulate clit - amazing, earth shattering penetration! formula we see in het porn.
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anonymous
April 29 2009, 00:52:45 UTC
This reminded me of something else that sometimes annoys me in fics:
Not all people get hot from having their boobs fondled/getting kissed/[insert other act here]. Different people = different erogenous zones. Sex can be good even if character X doesn't personally care about kissing all that much.
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anonymous
April 29 2009, 01:04:15 UTC
Hee hee, this is true, a friend of mine actually described his first kiss in terms of feeling like eating slimy meat (by this standard, Luffy would probs like it... he might unconsciously bite though) Of course, he was kissed on a dare and didn't actually LIKE the person he was making out with (cough, me, cough) so that might have been the reason for that, but STILL. Altogether, I don't mind sex being spruced up and exaggerated a bit in fics, just because... well, it makes for good reading, but I do prefer a bit of variety.
Anyone got some particularly interesting/ not cliche erogenous zones they want to share/ perhaps see explored more in fics? Maybe if we list some kooky ones it'll help authors get inspiration.
TMI starts here...
anonymous
April 29 2009, 10:30:46 UTC
Probably not particularly interesting but: massaging my scalp with fingertips and even nails makes me melt like ice-cream. While touching my tits is kind of "meh", running fingernails over my ribs/other chest area is all kinds of "yay!" (and this without me being a masochist :P).
Re: Let's talk about buttsex.
anonymous
April 29 2009, 08:34:02 UTC
Hm, don't think I've contributed to this thread, just wanted to add to it that while I certainly don't always feel in the mood for penetration in RL, when I'm in the mood for reading hetporn I do appreciate it being in there. Yeah. I wonder how much does porn really demand realism over, well, porn?
Also, this reminded me of a discussion somewhere on how some women apparently do get off on only having their breasts fondled. Was that on here? I can't remember. Has that been done on in a fic on here? Curious now...
Not averse to mixing it up a bit I guess. But I'm realising from a few recent fics and discussions that when I've made a prompt for explicit het my expectation is that vaginal penetration happen.
Re: Let's talk about buttsex.
anonymous
April 29 2009, 08:37:29 UTC
Oops, and I should probably add that at the same time I don't require it in reading yaoi because anal really doesn't translate as an equivalent or a way to 'het' the guys to me.
Re: Let's talk about buttsex.
anonymous
April 29 2009, 08:53:41 UTC
some women apparently do get off on only having their breasts fondledThis is the part where I raise my hand and apologize for the TMI, but...yeah. I don't think I've seen it in any fic on here, or any other quirky random non-genital spots that get people off sometimes. I think I'd kinda like to see it, personally. There's only so many times you can read about stroking cocks and penetrative sex before it feels like you're just reading the same story over again
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And I personally enjoy reading about characters who have hangups or aversions getting penetrated, especially if they're still not sure if they enjoyed it or not afterwards.
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I don't know why buttsex would be the beat all end all of all of that, but I can tell you why I like it makes just about as much sense as why anyone enjoys reading about an act like sex: because it turns me on.
I know I've written at least one frottage fic for this meme, but hey, if this discussion prompts some more of that sorta thing, bring on the sexy! drool...
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Not all people get hot from having their boobs fondled/getting kissed/[insert other act here]. Different people = different erogenous zones. Sex can be good even if character X doesn't personally care about kissing all that much.
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Of course, he was kissed on a dare and didn't actually LIKE the person he was making out with (cough, me, cough) so that might have been the reason for that, but STILL.
Altogether, I don't mind sex being spruced up and exaggerated a bit in fics, just because... well, it makes for good reading, but I do prefer a bit of variety.
Anyone got some particularly interesting/ not cliche erogenous zones they want to share/ perhaps see explored more in fics? Maybe if we list some kooky ones it'll help authors get inspiration.
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Also, scalp and the top of my neck.
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Neck, Back of thighs and anywhere I'm ticklish (ribs etc)
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Also, this reminded me of a discussion somewhere on how some women apparently do get off on only having their breasts fondled. Was that on here? I can't remember. Has that been done on in a fic on here? Curious now...
Not averse to mixing it up a bit I guess. But I'm realising from a few recent fics and discussions that when I've made a prompt for explicit het my expectation is that vaginal penetration happen.
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