MANAGUA, Nicaragua - Lisa A. Miller and her daughter, Isabella, started their fugitive lives here in the fall of 2009, disguised in the white scarves and long blue dresses of the Mennonites who spirited them out of the United States and adopting the aliases Sarah and Lydia
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also, ime, a lot of religious groups and cults try and exploit lgbtq people because we already have the internalized homophobia, we've already been raised in a culture that says we're sinners and disgusting and immoral and child abusers and going to hell. so yeah, while i'm not excusing what's she's done, i've known people who were manipulated like this because they were terrified that they were inherently sinful, dirty people because they were attracted to other women. i am LIVID at the individuals who helped her and reaffirmed that hateful worldview, and i'm pissed that with all this you had the gall to bring up mental illness.
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it's the jumping to "she must be mentally ill to do that" that i'm objecting to. even if she is, it may not have been a serious contributing factor. and even if it was a serious contributing factor, the constant conjecture about how criminals must be mental is both deflecting from larger societal problems that influence behaviour, and harmful to those of us living with mental illness.
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Ugh. Breakups are awful and working out clashes in values as separate parents is hard enough. Essentially, by kidnapping the child she's ended any possibility of any kind of dialogue, or allowing Isabella to make up her own mind. GOD FORBID YOU PRESENT DIFFERING VIEWPOINTS AND ALLOW CHOICE.
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I was lucky that I was able to adopt our 2nd child because we lived in a progressive city that allowed step-parent adoption. To live with the risk of losing your child and having no legal recourse...I can't imagine.
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I think that, if nothing else than for the sake of her own relationship with her daughter, Lisa Miller needs to turn herself in immediately. It doesn't matter how much Isabella loves her mother or how staunchly Christian she is, if she grows up and finds out about all of this, she is going to feel incredibly betrayed and it is going to do irreversible damage to both her faith and her relationship with Lisa. I can't imagine many better ways to turn a child off of your faith forever than to ( ... )
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