INFO POST TIME! BULLYING AWARENESS AND PREVENTION

[lickety_split]

Info posts may contain triggering elements, so please be mindful of the topic and read at your own discretion.

SPECIFIC TRIGGER WARNINGS: suicide, depression, abuse
IMAGE CONTENT: Nothing graphic, just a few stock photos of kids looking lonelyThese posts are a "safe space" to ask questions you might otherwise be too shy to. Please do not reply to

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[lickety_split]

The tags are a work in progress right now.... it makes us weep to think about it.

[myrrhmade]

[origamicage]

totally agreed. xlickety_splitx for President, 2012?

[myrrhmade]

HOLY SHIT AGRRED! (perfection)

[azetburcaptain]

YES! They've got my vote!!!!!!

[jettakd]

I was pulled out of school to be homeschooled after the bullying resulted in permanent physical disability (which I will go more into if asked). Just sick rn, and don't wanna get more into this unless asked, but I am open to questions.

[dorawa]

oh my god i'm so sorry :( if i may ask, did you turn those people in for their bullying?

[jettakd]

The one who caused the injury that left me partially disabled was turned in when I went to the hospital, but barely anything came from it. Expulsion, but we were almost to middle school so it didn't really have an effect on him. No one else got in trouble for worse :(

[calixti]

Are there any resources for intra-family bullying?

I ask because I've been bullied by my younger sister starting from when we were in elementary school--she's always been taller, stronger, and more sociable than me, which made and makes it easy for her to do and get away with. And despite our parents knowing about it and agreeing that it's wrong and she needs to stop, they continuously urge me to 'reconcile' with her, which as far as I can tell means 'play nice and don't get upset where other people can see you or bother other people with it.'

[romp]

I have no help but you bring up a situation you almost never read about. It's great that you recognize it for what it is tho'.

I understand why parents want kids to just get along but that it so pointless to say! My father used to tell me I'd miss my mean sister when she was dead...because that was supposed to end the argument. But she's dead now and the only grief I have is for her wasted years and the damage she did.

The replies to this post are triggery but many describe sibling bullying. No obvious solution but perhaps your parents need to be convinced that it's real? Good luck.

[calixti]

Thing is, my parents ARE convinced it's real, but I need to 'get over it' and 'reconcile.' Because yes, the physical stuff, the theft, and the destruction of my things was bad, but we were kids, and kids ALWAYS fight! All she's doing now is spreading vicious rumours about how 'dangerous' I am due to my sexuality and mental illnesses, refusing to let me see my niece, gaslighting me whenever I'm unfortunate enough to have to interact with her, intentionally triggering my startle reflex if we're in the same room, lying to our parents and making up interactions where *I* bully *her* and her husband (though thankfully, my parents know full well I hide in my room with the door locked whenever they're over), and, along with her husband, threatening my cat and hurting him with excessive 'punishments' for any minor infraction, real or percieved.

You know. Nothing I shouldn't be comletely willing to forgive and 'get over.' Because we're adults now and I'm really going to miss my sister someday if I 'let' our 'relationship' die.

[romp]

Wow, I can really relate. My "good sister" and I just learned to avoid the bad one. She'd occasionally cry to our parents about how no one wanted to be with her on [insert holiday] but I was clear with my parents that her constant baiting of my good sister and her poor treatment of my parents meant there wasn't anything she could offer. She couldn't be bothered to learn the names of my children

TW: Things I was called in gradeschool part i: lesbian

[llivla]

1. I was a lesbian because I was tall.
2. I was a lesbian because I had acne.
3. I was a lesbian because I wore glasses.
4. I was a lesbian because I never saw Titanic.
5. I was a lesbian because I cried all the time from people calling me names and trapping me on the bus.
6. I was a lesbian so I couldn't be a nun, so back off so the rest of us can talk to cool pen pal Sister Generic Nun Name.

It makes me laugh now, in an 'oh god i might cry way,' I guess, because along with wishing I was a boy, I wasn't heterosexual after all. Some stupid self-hate for years was because I was "letting" them choose for me. How fucked up is that? My brain knew it was just grade school and I was FREE, they couldn't do anything to me. But my paranoia and stunted sociality said otherwise.

Re: TW: Things I was called in gradeschool part i: lesbian

[romp]

Humans are very social animals. I think the messages we're sent by our peers are much more powerful than any intellectual knowledge we may have, especially as children.

I'm sorry the little shits did that.

Re: TW: Things I was called in gradeschool part i: lesbian

[myrana]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. :(

I'm not speaking from personal experience exactly, but I don't think you're alone in those feelings. During one year at school, people used to tease me and one of my best friends about being ~lesbians~ because we were really close (and wore glasses, had no boyfriends, all the rest of it). It started out as just teasing but became basically agressive bullying over a few months. I'm actually straight, but my friend is gay - she knew she was a lesbian back then, but all the teasing made her feel ashamed to come out. And she's told me she used to wish she was straight for several years just so she could 'prove them wrong'.

Re: TW: Things I was called in gradeschool part i: lesbian

[peace_piper]

I was called a slut at age 13 before I even knew what sex was and was clearly just as much of a virgin as the other girls.

I was called a whore before I knew, again, what sex was, or that people could be paid for it.

I was called a skank, a tramp and yes, a lesbian. How can I be a lesbian? What's a lesbian? If I don't even know that men/women can have sex or what sex is, how can I be aware of the idea that women/women can have sex? Honestly, I don't even think I knew that people could be gay until I was 17 or so.

Why was I treated this way? Because I grew tits before everyone else. When I was 12, I was already a 36C. Most of the other girls didn't even get to training bras until they were 14-15.

Then I got older and was very very mad for being called things that I wasn't. I was straight. (Until much later when I learned I was actually gay, and a transman.)