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I ask because I've been bullied by my younger sister starting from when we were in elementary school--she's always been taller, stronger, and more sociable than me, which made and makes it easy for her to do and get away with. And despite our parents knowing about it and agreeing that it's wrong and she needs to stop, they continuously urge me to 'reconcile' with her, which as far as I can tell means 'play nice and don't get upset where other people can see you or bother other people with it.'
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I understand why parents want kids to just get along but that it so pointless to say! My father used to tell me I'd miss my mean sister when she was dead...because that was supposed to end the argument. But she's dead now and the only grief I have is for her wasted years and the damage she did.
The replies to this post are triggery but many describe sibling bullying. No obvious solution but perhaps your parents need to be convinced that it's real? Good luck.
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You know. Nothing I shouldn't be comletely willing to forgive and 'get over.' Because we're adults now and I'm really going to miss my sister someday if I 'let' our 'relationship' die.
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And I'm under pressure now because she's going to get married and I'll be expected to go, except I, like you, have no interest in maintaining a relationship with her. My parents accept this, but since THEY want to keep a relationship with her, I'm going to be in minor contact whether I like it or not.
But anyway - you have an absolute right to shun your sister. No one has a right to a relationship with you, and the idea of 'but they're family' is imho one of the most poisonous and enabling ideas alive.
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And anytime I try to bring it up with relatives, I get told to 'grow up' and 'be the big sister,' because younger sisters are SUPPOSED to be bullies, apparently? :/
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