Richard Land: Single moms, give up your kids!

[qara_isuke]

"In what seems like a single step away from advocating that we take kids away from their single moms by force, a conservative Christian leader is urging them to give up their children voluntarily

Comments

[executivehpfan]

If he's so concerned about children growing up in fatherless homes, why doesn't he start an organization to track down said absent fathers?

I fucking hate men.

[lizrocks]

Because that's holding MEN accountable instead of women.

[moonshaz]

Ding ding ding ding! We have a winner!

[betray802]

Begone with your logic, we need none of that here.

[nicosian]

've pretty much had it with these theocratic fundamentalist misogynist assholes opening their wordholes.

[lizrocks]

Oh, but he married his whore his mistress so my brother and I would have had TWO PARENTS.

So was the trigger warning for sexism also supposed to include OP commentary?

[qara_isuke]

I honestly had to re-type my reply to this a few times, to avoid automatic nasty responses.

Suffice to say, there's a long and painful and very ugly story behind said statement that I will spare the community. But no, it isn't sexism. Rather, a commentary on her activities in the strictest sense -- in other words, involving sexual favors and cash/goods. Hence, that label as opposed to the many other I could use in terms of her horrible personality.

(Nor does the source of half my genetic material get a free pass. They're BOTH equally horrible people and deserve every bit of awful that Karma sends their way.)

[yelena_r0ssini]

That's... sexism. Even assuming that this woman was actually a sex worker, you can't be unaware of the misogynist connotation of the word "whore". It's not a neutral descriptor even when ascribed to sex workers; it's a moral judgment against them for being sex workers.

You don't like your stepmom; cool beans. I'm sure you have your reasons. That doesn't justify the use of that particular slur, nor does it make that slur magically non-sexist.

[qara_isuke]

Shortest edition: Not a sex worker, but rather using sex to take advantage of men towards gain of money/goods, destroying multiple families in the process.

Sex Workers = complex, nuanced issue.

Using sex to ruin lives for $$$ = Horrible people

But I've removed it, so hopefully we can move on.

[gambitia]

Adoption has been a big thing in my family.

Adoption can be a force for good. It can be great for a mother or couple who aren't ready for or don't want a child yet or ever, but who have an accident they can't or won't abort. With open adoptions becoming a thing, the parent(s) can even have a presence in the life of the kid, should they wish.

However, adoption can also leave the kid far worse off than if the kid was just allowed to stay with their birth mother. Adoptive parents are the same mix of saints and shitstains as the rest of the world.

Adoption is not a cure-all.

[qara_isuke]

I wish I had the capacity to like this comment so much.

Several of my friends are adopted, and it is as you said a mixed bag. One ended up in an abusive home, while others are fantastically happy. Like you essentially said, it varies depending on each situation and can be good or bad for the child.

The way it gets touted as a magical cure-all bothers me, especially when used the way this douche is using it. And the way it seems to be getting used by Evangelical Christians a lot, with the idea of a "Good Christian Home" being better and wanting to remove children from their biological parent(s) so that they can be adopted by a GCH.

[rhysande]

The last place I would consider leaving a child is with a fundamentalist/Evangelical Christian family, particularly if they are of a sect that believes in patriarchal authority and discipline.

[pennylane101]

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