Why do straight women think being a lesbian is easier?

[popehippo]

It's sort of bizarre how so many times I've heard a friend or a public figure note that they've had trouble with men/a certain man, and that life would be so much less complicated if they were gay

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[elvistears]

Which is funny, cos they didn't exactly make lesbian relationships look EASY.

[roseofjuly]

Not from my viewing of The L Word - I admit I haven't seen the entire series, just a lot of it. But it seemed to be that they portrayed lesbian relationships as being quite complex and difficult - more so than the way most television shows portray any relationships (including heterosexual ones). Of course there was a level of glamorizing as there is in any television show, but in the episodes that I've watched there was more of a realism than most television shows have.

[bloodrivendream]

Because dating is often complicated and a lot of people seem to project the frustration that causes on the whole gender they date.

And because, I guess, a lot of women find other women more familiar and easier to deal with, on a platonic level at least.

Those are my two theories.

[bizwac]

Yeah, I'd go with the familiarity thing.
A lot of straight women/girls I know who have said it'd be easier to be gay seem to think that all women/girls are like them, and hence they would understand them better (they'd like what I like, do what I do, be how I am!). But that's just ridiculous. Women aren't a homogenous group.

[bloodrivendream]

Yeah, it is ridiculous. But I do think it is often part of the thought process.

[roseofjuly]

This is usually the way I've seen people say this.

[sunsetsinthewes]

:/

And, strangely, that sums up my reaction better than my words could.

[dieewigenacht]

...I think I just commented something that makes no sense at all.

[apricotflower]

what was it?

[iteari]

I wish people would call out this kind of thinking as Straight Privilege more often.