Selena Gomez Opens Up About Being Unable to Carry Her Own Children

[hewontgo]

Selena Gomez Opens Up About Being Unable to Carry Her Own Children: 'That Was Something I Had to Grieve' https://t.co/8y5mkuVmOr
- People (@people) September 9, 2024

Selena Gomez, 32, is opening up about her future motherhood plans.

“I haven’t ever said this...but I unfortunately can’t carry my own children,” Gomez said. “I have a lot of medical

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[flyingpigs_live]

With that guy??????

[soul_amazinn]

This is so uncalled for. That’s your take away from her sharing something painful?

[frejasface]

Yes.

[dreamdate]

Y'all are such miserable fucking people.

Post a picture of yourself. Let me see.

[automaticpeople]

I’ve noticed in the past that some on here are very negative about adoption, but it’s something I wish more couples would consider, rather than going the surrogacy route.

[syvlie0o0]

Some people around here espouse the idea that if you can't have children of your own you should just live with it, and I find that to be extremely toxic. Is adoption (or surrogacy) perfect? Obviously not. But it's better than having unwanted children out there left to deal on their own.

(This is completely separate from people like Paris Hilton or Priyanka Chopra who explicitly said they used surrogacy just to save time or their bodies or whatever)

[varioussaints]

(or surrogacy)

This is where you lose me. In the case of surrogacy, no unwanted child exists. Instead, someone with privilege and means is exploiting the body and wellbeing of a woman to procure a child.

Adoption isn't perfect, nor is fostering, but both are infinitely preferable to surrogacy, which fundamentally requires the exploitation and commodification of a woman to incubate a child (which will then be adopted to the intended parents, which means many of the issues surrounding adoption also exist within surrogacy arrangements).

"Some people around here espouse the idea that if you can't have children of your own you should just live with it" because you should. That's how reality works. If you can't have children and are unwilling to adopt, there are no other options that even remotely approach ethical conduct. We should not be encouraging people to buy access to a woman's body as some sort of workaround.

[syvlie0o0]

Half the people who have kids the old fashioned way don't even want them. It you go through the process of finding a surrogate it at least indicates and interest and desire for children ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[soul_amazinn]

I’ve never wanted children even as a kid I never thought it was a possibility for me but speaking on this topic.

I was at work training a new hire and she asked me if I had kids and I said no. Her response was “Awww, you’re still young!” It really took me back because I’m used to having people being weird when I say I’m childless but nobody knows a persons story. Like just stfu I shouldn’t have to give my opinion on the subject or situation. Maybe a person can’t physically have children or they don’t fucking want to. I’m just sick of it! Leave me the fuck alone.

I’m sorry 😞

[glitterslugs]

My friend goes on the pre-emptive straight away when someone asks her that question cause she knows they’ll follow it up with something condecending or annoying. So when they ask if she has kids she just plain says “nah, fuckin hate them” and the person never says anything else lol

[theactualworst]

I hate that shit. I was talking to an acquaintance about how I had to work really late one night and she goes, “Do you not have kids??”

People are so dumb.

[luvthatdrtywata]

It’s also wildly out of touch because everyone I know who had kids actually had a lot of trouble having them unless they were literally a teen mom. Like, do you know ANYONE???? It’s a wild question to still be asking in 2024. Though as someone who is child free by choice, I always say “ew no” to the question to shut it down then and there.

[mayjailer]

i'm sure ontd will be very compassionate and normal about this

[drownsodapop]

I have a question for straight/cis women that have the possibility to have children because lol I never will so try not to think about it!
But - is it worse to not be able to carry a child, or worse to not able to conceive? Because I feel like inability to carry is not a big deal if you're rich right? But don't want to speak out of turn

But also, fuck I have a cis married friend who so badly wants to have a kid, can physically do it, but financially can't bear it. It's hard these days

[kris_terror]

I imagine they're different kinds of pain, not necessarily one being worse.

[ty]

I think both probably hurt just as much

[bdl]

it took me a year to get pregnant when i was ttc and it was very painful in that time when we kept getting negative pregnancy tests or my period would come. the disappointment was heart wrenching. at the time i believed that the grief i was feeling was likely nothing compared to people who would be able to get and stay pregnant for some time and then eventually miscarry. you begin to get attached very quickly and it all feels so fragile the first few months so to have it ripped away from you seems so incredibly painful.

but then again there are people out there who try for years and years to get pregnant and never manage for whatever the reason. some people may even have the resources to put tens of thousands of dollars into it and still not get pregnant and i imagine that is also very difficult.

so yeah i couldn’t say one is harder than the other.