(Relationship) Death by Chocolate: AITA Post Goes Viral on Twitter -- Who's in the Right?

[until_you_leave]

A reddit post on r/AITAH has taken Twitter by storm.

Oh hell no. I hope she never responds. pic.twitter.com/b4H8YXMP9D
- AskAubry 🦝 (@ask_aubry) August 25, 2023

tl;dr: Girlfriend (36F) asks boyfriend (34M) if he wants her to bake a cake for his birthday, he requests chocolate cake with chocolate frosting. She bakes a chocolate cake with

Comments

[wakeupem]

This debated has haunted me on Twitter all day and now I have to relive it here!

[the_pinkdress]

The fact that adults are such spoiled babies about things like this (the INNER icing of a birthday cake) explains a lot about the last few years.

~but TECHNICALLY it wasn’t what he asked for~… who cares? Grow tf up.

[weighty_ghost]

I dunno, if I offer to make something as a gift and the person tells me what they want (which is much preferred because making those types of decisions haunts me)... why would I go ahead and change it?

if someone offers to get me a coffee, and i ask for a vanilla latte and they bring me back a mocha latte... like yeah, ok the thought is still nice but its fair to be a little put off by it.

though why adults choose to pick at things like this in front of children is beyond me.

[the_pinkdress]

She didn’t change it, she put one bit of vanilla inside after making chocolate on chocolate. Maybe she just felt like it and didn’t think a grown adult would pout about a strip of icing?

You would really look at that vanilla and feel a kind of way about it instead of just saying ty to someone for making you a cake?

Spoiled, rude, half-raised.

[weighty_ghost]

the filling was vanilla. it wasnt just a piece on top.

i have a friend who hates vanilla cake. if she asked me for a chocolate one, and i filled it with vanilla... thats not a nice gift.

[ari_angelique]

The boyfriend is the asshole and if he whined about something so stupid and then went on to whine about it on AITA of all places, I'd never bake him anything ever again.

...Ive obviously dated way too many mamas boys who thinking a layer of icing is THAT important.

[sbenner]

He didn’t whine about it though? He ate the cake, she asked what was up and he was honest

[ari_angelique]

He whined to thousands of people online about it. Bless his heart, having to eat around all that vile vanilla, how ever will he survive.

[primimproper]

This man has never had a real problem and it shows.

[ripqueequeg]

But he got a chocolate cake with chocolate frosting? She just made it a little bit fancier with the vanilla icing? I feel like I'm taking crazy pills lol...also he behaved like a child, just say it wasn't what you expected?

[shittysoup]

[ripqueequeg]

I meant just say that instead of also being childish by eating around it and doing all that in front of their guests

[sweetwaterlane]

tbh it sounds like he was hella dramatic, sulky, and/or rude about it. "If i wanted vanilla in the cake I would have asked for it" sounds like an asshole comment any way you say it. At most i would've said "i mean, i was hoping for all chocolate but this is still good" and even then i'd feel guilty complaining about a nice gesture like someone baking me a birthday cake.

If it was completely off base from his request (chocolate cake with chocolate icing and nothing fancy) like a carrot cake or cheesecake, i could see being a little more blunt, but this seems overdramatic for a little vanilla icing between layers.

[dejatrue]

[silverstarry]

I would get eating around it IF it were a very strong flavor that he didn't like. To me, a strong flavor like a pickle on a burger or bell pepper on pizza because they both leave a residue of that flavor so even if you remove it, you can still taste where it was. But a thin strip of vanilla in between chocolate cake with chocolate frosting? I would guess that if you blindfolded someone and fed them a piece, they wouldn't notice the vanilla at all. And he said that he'd eaten that same vanilla frosting before and liked it! Knowing all that, eating around the vanilla seemed like a petty and passive-aggressive thing to do.

[green_monsterx]

People who are pretending he didn't act out are really confusing me. She didn't out of the blue ask him if he was disappointed or what was wrong. He obviously changed his behavior and was making it very obvious he was unhappy, which is what prompted her to ask about it. Then, acting out and being petulant at the actual celebration wasn't enough, he comes online to whine about her and dog her on reddit

[marzipanism]

Mte

The part that makes him a petty asshole is him eating around the vanilla frosting.

He admitted he enjoys the vanilla frosting. So him eating around him was his way to make sure his gf knew he was displeased with his cake.