Paris Hilton says she thought she was asexual before meeting her husband Carter Reum

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Paris Hilton says she thought she was asexual before meeting her husband Carter Reum:

“I was known as a sex symbol but anything sexual terrified me…I called myself the ‘kissing bandit’ because I only liked to make out. A lot of my relationships didn’t work out because of that.” pic.twitter.com/TL93cORP8D
- Buzzing Pop (@BuzzingPop) February 17, 2023

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[the_pinkdress]

Biggest surprise for me in both growing up (entering my 30s), and also moving past millennial early-mid aughts pop culture was learning that a lot of the hypersexualized or sexually ~empowered girls actually didn’t even like sex or like never had an orgasm or any number of things.
I look at women and young women who play into the sexualized tropes so differently now tbh.

[goldenhera]

Yeah, it's really bizarre to me! I have never understood the appeal of having sex just to say you're having sex, especially past your teen years. Like, who are you trying to impress and why?

[the_pinkdress]

There are a lot of different reasons so I’m not trying to generalize, but I’ve learned that a lot of girls (as in 20-somethings) were constantly ~hooking up~ really just to get time and attention with the guy they liked (or supposedly liked), or to experience the validation of sex. I’m not saying this to shame anyone at all, because it’s really more of an observation that for so many young women, the experience of sexuality was just the act of sex as a dynamic they could experience with someone, even if it wasn’t enjoyable. But especially in the 2000s/2010s we started to perpetuate this myth that everyone was owning their sexuality and having sex for pleasure.

For me sex and sexuality was more about a more singular chemistry and desire and that was just more rare to find with someone else, but I always felt as though I had got something wrong. It wasn’t until more recently where I’ve learned more that I’ve taken a totally different perspective on it.

[complisult]

When I was having a lot of sex in my 20s, it really came down to enjoying feeling desired and in some cases, powerful, and the sex was just a byproduct of that but not the important part. Now I’m an almost 40 year old married lady and I’m only going to have sex when I want sex, not because of some other feelings wrapped up in it.

[onestateofgrace]

[damaliaraya]

Well, not all ace people are sex repulsed, and may have sex for varying non-coercive reasons.

In Paris’ case tho, yeah, I would be unsurprised to find there was a mixture of drugs and pressure at work. From what I understand she seems totally out of it/not as not it.

[orange_jelly23]

sounds like ~trauma~ to me

[su_metal]

i was going to say this

[lulufairybubble]

Yeah she was sexually abused at that place she was sent to as a teen. Plus there was a teacher in middle school that she revealed had groomed her.

[smnp]

:-( i thought the school thing wqs just physical abuse

[jime22]

I appreciate her opening up about it, this topic is still pretty taboo in the mainstream

[su_metal]

i won't assume someone's struggles with sexuality but this sounds like she had really bad experiences and didn't have the motivation to have sex which is too damn high for women.