Paul Bettany: having Johnny Depp texts read aloud in libel trial was ‘an unpleasant feeling’

[shangri__la]

Just an idea Paul Bettany, but if you don’t want “unpleasantness”, maybe don’t ever chat with your mate about whether the two of you would murder his wife by “burning” or “drowning” her. https://t.co/lJyaE64ihQ
- Frances Ryan (@DrFrancesRyan) December 27, 2021
Paul Bettany has spoken for the first time about having text messages between himself and

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[maidenhell]

Lots of comments here: https://www.reddit.com/r/Deuxmoi/comments/rp0kom/paul_bettany_featured_in_the_independent/

[toddies]

i'm a big believer in "you are the company u keep" and there's no better reflection of who you are as person than who u marry but that has its limits (e.g., racism, cheating ppl out of money, child abuse, etc) & idt it's applicable in this situation. she can't control what he says to his buddies in private texts and if that's how he talks about someone else's wife it's prob reflective of how he talks to/about his own. between these texts and their abrupt/weird engagement, i assume they have a pretty chaotic/dysfunctional relationship, at best.

regardless, most women would be pissed about these texts but 99.9% aren't leaving a 20-year marriage over them ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[gillenvillain]

Jesus, it makes me start to wonder about her now. Is she an asshole like him but keeps her image clean or did she just marry a fucking sociopath and is in denial?

[theactualworst]

This is how they got together so maybe both:

When he met Connelly on the set of the 2001 movie A Beautiful Mind, both were in other relationships. Their friendship blossomed into romance shortly after the shock of the 9/11 attacks - Bettany has said he realized he was in love with the actress after frantically worrying about her. He proposed to Connelly before they even dated and moved in with her in New York City.

[ahkna]

A lot of women rationalize it away

I just read a book by a local (Canadian) woman who married a man who had brutally murdered a woman. Then was shocked and said there were "no signs" when a month after they were married, a few months after he was granted full parole, he committed more violent crimes against women. She also rationalized those away.

i also read a few weeks ago an anonymous article where a woman was pregnant with her first child when her husband was arrested for texting a 12 year old. She forgave him and believed he wouldn't do it again.

Denial is everything. And putting themselves in the position of other women is unthinkable because it might be hard

[gillenvillain]

I don't get it with Jennifer though. She's beautiful, talented and I assume has plenty of money. She can do better than him.

Granted it could be just as you described. Denial...or worse, she is an asshole and doesn't give a fuck.

I don't get how people can just side step those texts as 'joking'. Nothing said there is funny and shows both Depp and Bettany to be misogynist asswipes.

And if he's embarrassed about his texts being made public, how about not being an asshole?

[ahkna]

Because they "know his heart" or whatever excuse

[arawelo]

male identified woman are something else.

[patenipat]

Yesss, had so many friends that felt threatened and reacted passive aggressive to anything slighty feminist while having the worst boyfriends. The messenger becomes the enemy, because that's always easier than addressing some deep rooted personal problems. One friend even stated she hated her therapists whenever that therapist wanted to talk about that said friend's boyfriend.

[ring_a_word]

"I just read a book by a local (Canadian) woman who married a man who had brutally murdered a woman. Then was shocked and said there were "no signs" when a month after they were married, a few months after he was granted full parole, he committed more violent crimes against women. She also rationalized those away."

Title of the book, please.

[ahkna]

Through the Glass by Shannon Maroney. When I say I hated it, I usually write a few sentences as a review, but for this book I was so furious I wrote 5,000 words and had to cut it down by 2000 words to fit GR character limit.

[mzgrottesca]

One of my cousins is married to a man who was convicted and served time for assault and battery towards a 14 year old girl in his 40s. She fully believes his version of events that he was "framed" and was actually hanging out in teenage chatrooms to "teach young girls about internet safety". It's literally fucking insane the things people will convince themselves of. My cousin has two young daughters who were around middle school and early high school age when they got married... I worry all the fucking time.

[ahkna]

oh my days, i'd worry too.

it's the 'I know his heart" denial, even when the rest of us can see she's being lied to

[fernandocolunga]

She knows who he is better than all of us

[chll51]

He knows he's a pos and she's ok with it. That's her cross to bear.