Diane von Furstenberg’s dating advice: It’s ‘not cute to be needy’

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Diane von Furstenberg’s dating advice: It’s ‘not cute to be needy’ https://t.co/zsLpdAU9r1 pic.twitter.com/4lXOXztxnu
- Page Six (@PageSix) July 22, 2019
The fashion designer discussed how to be single

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[xtinkerbellax]

"the most important relationship you have in life is with yourself. Once you have that, every other relationship is a plus and not a must."

I think this is actually pretty important because people DO settle when they are super focused on NEEDING a relationship. I don't think it's possible to be happier with someone who isn't right for you, esp. longterm, then it is just being alone when you're content with yourself.

[callonme_84]

The greatest love of all

[schmankerl]

ITA. It's really sad to me, because I keep seeing soo many women who'll settle for a guy even though they're not happy with him, just for the sake of being in a relationship. It's genuinely depressing. It's like they're afraid of being single (even just for a while).

[talklikelions]

I have a friend that’s always going on dates w these complete losers and then she gets so upset when they ghost her. She always says she wishes she had someone like my bf.

I keep telling her he and I met and stayed together over circumstances neither of us expected or were looking for but she’s just really invested in finding a boyfriend. I don’t really see it happening when she’s in that headspace bc every time a guy shows interest she jumps full in right away.

[babs]

dating is so unnatural imo. gotta start out as friends first and let things happen organically

[xtinkerbellax]

Or at least meeting people organically: through friends, at work (although that can be iffy lol), through social situations. Online dating is essentially shopping for a partner, and good on paper does not equate to being a good long term match. And talking face to face people don't have time to like, analyze every sentence they're sending you, it's so put on.

[msbombtastic]

it is like online shopping and I hate it. Also most people don't even seem willing to go past that scrolling/swiping stage. I need to find ways of networking more irl lol

[oh_ilikethat]

I genuinely think online dating reduces some people’s chances of finding a partner tbh.

Both for the reasons you stated and because people could just use the energy and time they put into texting with strangers and going on what are essentially blind dates into taking care of themselves, developing their hobbies/interests, and going to events where they can meet likeminded people-which is a more organic way to find a partner

[ginainabottle]

i was blessed with the ability to completely lose interest if someone isn't interested in me, thank god. i see so many of my friends pining for people who clearly aren't into them and it's kinda crazy to me that they see it as a challenge/something that piques their interest. my aphrodisiac is reciprocity, if you don't show it, i move on super quickly.

[cbluechicken]

I think for some it feels like "well what's wrong with me" so you are chasing validation. It's never worth it

[espressotorte]

Luckily you didn't have to learn this response lol.

[thinkweism]

lmao ia. i learned over many years of rejection to finally lose any and all interest when people start acting wishy-washy or indifferent.

[cbluechicken]

I agree with this tbh. My current relationship feels like a plus and it's great. I still feel like I'm living my own life with an added bonus. I think the idea of dating, marriage, monogamy are being flipped on its head as the years go by.

My last relationship I was so lonely in NYC moving here alone and boy did I settle. I ran into him a couple months ago and lol I had to laugh.

[kanonot]

omg my bff had the same story. less than 2 months in NYC, he met this parasite, that cheated on him and tried to blame it on my bff for suffocating him.

[alienjiive]

Teach me how to move to New York alone plz 😫😫😫

[cbluechicken]

Move here and then you and I will become besties!!!

Also, I'll admit. I JUST found my groove. The first year and half was extremely hard.

[__onthebound]

jfc, just attack me why don't you

[kanonot]

me;

[yurasama_love]

so accurate it hurts

[eatmydustbinns]

Lol my paranoia is that this is a long con