Jake Shears opens up about dating an older man

[beaarthursdrug]

Jake Shears opens up about dating a man twice his age when he was still in high school https://t.co/ZfFjgZHHGa pic.twitter.com/QiOQiitN8T
- Queerty (@Queerty) November 19, 2017

• In an age where many May-December influenced romance films are popping up more and more (Call Me By Your Name, Magic In The Moonlight, The Reader, etc) Jake Shears reveals he

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[autoscopy]

I recently started dating a guy about 5 years older than me, which I didn't think would be a big deal but it's starting to dawn on me that he is a Real Adult and I am 26 with 6 roommates.

[duchello]

eh tbh mid 20s with roommates is a stark truth to what being an adult is these days, especially if you live in a city

[this_madness]

Hell in California I would bring that up to early 30s

[beaarthursdrug]

mte

[mimblexwimble]

How about we stop using May-December romance for "relationships" where one of the parties is an underage kid?

[angriest_girl]

Yeah, he wasn’t dating, he was being abused. Even if he doesn’t realise it.

[mimblexwimble]

I suppose the specific characterization is up to him, but certainly the thirty-something year old who pursued and "dated" him took advantage of a kid and was disgusting.

[ishi_chan]

LJ cut bc I jsut feel more comfortable that way

[Spoiler (click to open)]I think it can be very difficult to..come to terms with that. I've been in a similar situation, where I was underage and...dating a grown man and I still have mixed feelings about it, despite the fact that, when I turned the age he was, and I looked back and looked at guys the age I was, it didn't really seem normal to be sexually attracted to them. It's strange because I don't feel like I've been raped but there were definitely situations where I've felt disadvantaged and insecure and pressured into doing things I don't know that I would have done otherwise.

This actually sums up my feelings rather well lol: "But still, there was a lot of confusing, hurt feelings that surrounded the scenario that I could have done without.”"

[ahkna]

Is there a different The Reader? Or is the one where the boy has a screwed up relationship with a Nazi? Because were the movie and the book both not very clear that it wasn't actually romantic but toxic and led to the boy having issues related to it?

[beaarthursdrug]

They like to avoid the term all-together and call it "Coming of age"....

We had to read the book in class and I was extremely uncomfortable with it.

[beaarthursdrug]

I kept thinking it was a true story lol

[savage_land]

Girl, I got down with older men when I was really young and I was the aggressor. #noshame #noregrets

[beaarthursdrug]

lol the hashtags. aggressor like top?

[kidviciousdonna]

Closest I had was dating a 21yr old when I was 17. He drunkenly called me at midnight and when I kept clearing his calls he kept calling like every minute. Finally I answered and he was drunk emotional and I was like, “Dude, I have a final in the morning. STOP.” Turned my phone off, realized how crazy the age difference was and dumped him the next day. Looking back later in life I totally realized why he couldn’t get a irl his age haha.

[beaarthursdrug]

21 and 17 reminds me of Chris Pratt and Emily Van Camp except he was 23 and she was 17

[kidviciousdonna]

I’m sure she was the more mature one like I was too haha. I mean 4 years is no big deal now, but at that age point yeah, not good