Gosh

[nyecamden]

My father just phoned. I came out as trans to him. He heard my dropped voice. I've not spoken to him in 2 years. A death in the family made him want to be friendly. It's a good thing (not the death obviously), but I'm surprised.

Yay for my family being non-sucky for a change! I imagine I'll still be banned from his house though.

Comments

[nakedfaery]

Well done for taking such an enormously brave and challenging step! You're very strong :-)

[nyecamden]

Thanks. It would have been more uncomfortable keeping it from him tbh.

[whizzerandchips]

He phoned. This is good. Return the call out of the blue soon.

[oneirocritical]

I am happy for you that he was nice about it, but it's sad that you are banned from his house still.

[girlchild0aglow]

You're brave! My parents still don't know I'm bi or my boyfriend is trans, and I hope to keep it that way forever, if I can help it!

Why were you banned from his house in the first place, out of curiousity?

[nyecamden]

When I was in the middle of my breakdown I visited his house when I was in full-blown truth mode, whilst accompanied by a schizophrenic boyfriend who was similarly truthful. We were both polite, but we freaked my dad and step-mum out considerably. This was about 7 years ago, and he didn't even want to meet me on neutral ground after that.

My voice has broken, it needed explaining. I didn't want to lie. Telling the truth is never brave for me, I struggle to avoid doing it. I didn't really care about how he took it, as he's not really in my life.

[neurotic_orchid]

I'm really glad he called you and that you told him the truth. I don't lie, either. I hate it.