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[nyecamden]

I went to see a counsellor yesterday. It was mostly to do with gender, but I was really anxious at the start so we talked about how my mental health had been in the fortnight since our first meeting.

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[darkfloweruk]

The counselling session sounds constructive. I hope it ultimately helps.

Take it easy on yourself mate.

xxx

[hawkida]

You noticed my recent post where I ranted about barging into people. I actually don't see it as a particularly bad thing when I do it. I do it in the hope that they'll pay more attention in future and because I don't want to dance out of the way of hundreds of people a day when it's *their* fault we're on a collision course. So, yeah, it's not an ideal reaction and I know your situation is a bit different to mine but maybe don't be so hard on yourself - they were looking at their phone instead of where they were going and how much danger did they really end up in? It seems to me one man's "aggression" is another's "self assertive".

Not that getting yourself out of stressful situations is a bad thing, of course.

[londonbimale]

I do this too and I completely agree. Sometimes if I notice that I am getting too confrontational then when I see the next mobile eejit that is about to walk in to me I just stop. They collide with me and have to be in the wrong, and usually they are very apologetic. Another one that gets me is people who walk out of doors or off tube trains without looking, straight into my path. They usually get their heels kicked if I refuse to change direction. I remember one bimbo who turned around and told me to look where I was going! I assured that I was and had watched her walk right in to me; she was confused, poor idiot. Sometimes in the West End, "upper class" (NOT) people stride out of the theatre without regard for the commoners walking along the pavement; kicking their heels or scraping your shoe down their achilles tendon is extremely satisfying, and if they get upset you can just pretend to be apologetic for not looking where you were going!

[smokkee911]

Would it help to write out things that are on your mind prior to the session and then just kinda give that to the person when you get there - instead of having to vocalize it??

:-)

[leathersub]

The barging thing is annoying. When I lived in Japan though, found a fantastic strategy. Don't make eye contact.

Okay, it doesn't work for the idiots on their mobile phones who are too busy texting to see you anyway, but this actually works!! (disclaimer: for the most part).

Try it. Walk down the street, don't make eye contact. It seems that there is some subconscious thing that if you make eye contact, you're likely to have recognised that someone has to move, and you'll do it.

In Japan, this worked a TREAT. People would recognise that they hadn't been seen, and it became their responsibility to move. It's weird I know, but try it, really.

[nyecamden]

Hm, this doesn't work when I'm feeling aggressive and want to bump into people!