A plea

[noevilmusic]

Prefacing this by saying that this is only going on LJ because I don't know how I'm gonna have time to personally talk to everyone within the next short period of time and I'm not going to make a million phone calls or see you all on AIM, otherwise this honestly wouldn't be here. Also I'm not going to proofread before posting so this will all be

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[jackryan622]

I'm glad to see this post because it seems to me to air out some of the issues that I've been thinking of while following the most recent drama from afar. I agree with you, Matt, that LJ is not the place for most of this stuff and it would make much more sense if people talk it out in person or not at all. For the most part, it seems to me that this most recent issue is something for Billy and Cheryl to resolve on their own and if they want to talk about it with anyone else then they can, but otherwise it doesn't seem to me to be anyone else's place to judge or get involved and that's why I prefer to stay out. If someone wants to talk to me about it, I'm always here, I'm a good listener and I'll be there for any friend in need. I've always made that pledge and I consider all you Lexington folks friends

[adarjapheth]

Ok, I've been thinking about this for a bit and I realized there's a difference in ideologies going on here. I vaguely understand the notion that people should stay out of other people's business, and that they should keep their mouths shut to avoid stirring up trouble, however that's not who I am. Speaking from personal experience, I hate when something bad happens to me and people think they should just turn the other cheek. I feel this acutely because, honestly, I am in a group of people who don't like to get involved. Billy is one of the most like this. But when I'm hurt, that's not what I want. I want support and I want someone to get my back. I want to feel loved, not abandoned. And since I am of the "do unto others" notion, it is in my nature to speak up when I see something shitty happen. So like it or not, that's what I've been doing here. I've been lending support where I felt it was needed, and I have no regrets in that respect. I will speak up, I will point fingers, and as always, I will willingly take all the blamne for

[zacronos]

You know we agree on this, so just a heads up that I'm posting a comment to Joe's that you might want to read.

[zacronos]

I really strongly think things aren't as straight-forward as that. For one thing, being involved with the fact that Cheryl has inappropriately hurt Billy is different from being involved with what they want to do with their relationship. Why should people have to pretend Cheryl didn't do something wrong that hurt one of their friends? That's not about how Billy and Cheryl respond to what happened, it's about how other people interact with Cheryl. How Billy and Cheryl deal with it and what happens with their relationship *is* between them. But if a friend of Billy or of Cheryl thinks that the relationship is really hurting one or the other, why shouldn't that friend seek them out and talk to them about it, whether or not Billy and Cheryl ask for advice? A truly good friend is willing to offer unwelcome advice; the decision, though, would still be between the two of them