An epiphany...

[ninjathekid]

First time I DJed in months. Was looking forward to coming back out, having my friends there, and having a good time. But then a funny thing happened. Either my friends didn't show, or they left after about an hour

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[djmcmonkey]

Dude, I never say "Telo's a great DJ," because it's a given. Your friends all know it already, so it just seems kind of obvious to say. You're an awesome DJ. You weren't sitting with us last night, so you missed me saying that three or four times last night. "Damn that was a nice mix! And that's a great choice after this song! I love Telo's DJing. It's been too long since I heard it." And Karen goes "Me too." But you were busy DJing, which makes it hard to hang out with you. Clearly I should've taken the time to mention it to you. I loved your song selections last night, and you mixed them great. And I wanted to dance.

And then I'd go dance, and Karen would come over and say "The guy who has a crush on you? He's been staring at your ass the whole time you dance." And I'd feel self-conscious and want to leave, because I don't want to have to deal with *drama* anymore. And when I *did* leave because of it, Karen and Brenna both needed a ride, so they went with me. And, as a straight guy, I felt very out-of-place in the

[peasantgirl]

hey i was dancing!
& i only don't show up to your events because i can't find anyone to take me & last night i only left because my ride was leaving... so i'm obviously your biggest fan with transportation issues... :-p

[djmcmonkey]

You seem to have this idea that people secretly don't like you. And that they go to great lengths to hide it.

I can't really fathom where this idea comes from. It doesn't make any sense to the rest of us.

[ninjathekid]

Just to let you know, i'm not attacking you guys, or questioning motives. But this does actually happen all the time, and I'm genuinely wondering what it is about my sets that people don't stick around for them.

Yes, I do like feedback from the people I care about. Because they are the ones that are going to be the most honest, and the opinions I value the most. But when i read about my friends gushing about other DJs, and i don't ever get feedback about my sets, it DOES make me think that they don't like what I do, and are just too concerned about my feelings to let me know.

[djmcmonkey]

But when i read about my friends gushing about other DJs, and i don't ever get feedback about my sets, it DOES make me think that they don't like what I do, and are just too concerned about my feelings to let me know.I can see how you might think that. It's not vaguely the reason why, but I can see how you might think that

[brenna_claire]

i'm sorry :( *cries a little*....
this was only like the second or third time i've been to one of your sets...i thought it was amazing and i still have the gorillas song stuck in my head...
i am just stupid about dancing in public....and YOU can't be in two places at once....cause if i'm in public the only way to get me to dance is for someone to dance with me...and the only person there that i would have wanted to dance with would have been you...and if i hadn't been so worried about how i would get home by sunday morning...i would have stayed and hung out in the booth with you...and i wanted to stay very much...
arg..
telo, i'm sorry...