Comments | nightglade: Help!!

nightglade

Help!!

Apr 24, 2006 07:34

I don't know what to do anymore, my kid is driving me nuts. She refuses to do anything she is asked, she goofs off in school to the point she's getting in trouble all the time. She either doesn't do her homework or she doesn't turn it in when she gets it done. I have tried grounding, spanking, restricting activities, counseling and threatening her ( Read more... )

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nightshade_ks April 24 2006, 13:03:55 UTC

I have a 12 yr old stepdaughter that's about the same except she behaves in school and gets mostly straight A's (for now ( ... )

nightglade April 24 2006, 13:48:39 UTC

Unfortunately, my parents put me into 2 children's homes when I was a teenager, and all it did was make me resent them. She is so much like me when I was a kid it's scary, although I didn't start acting tis bad until after my parents gave up on me, which was at about 13 or 14.

nightshade_ks April 24 2006, 14:26:09 UTC

Hope you haven't told her all this... If you can make it she could too. heh damn kids.

I think mine will either flip out or calm way the hell down after mom gets to the point she will finally spank her. Granted, most of the stuff she does is minor bullshit now and just annoying because she's been told so many times what to do and she refuses to do it. (But, when she goes to her dad's, she's more than willing to do all of their laundry, clean the house, help cook meals, etc. Fuckin traitor. -yah I know that attitude doesn't help the situation, but her showing no respect to me is like paying for a car that you're not driving-)

Not much advice I can give, but you have my understanding. You could always have her mow the lawn with a pair of scissors... heh Did that with my stepson when he was still living with us. Then I fond out he likes to paly with scissors a little too much.

deadpansev April 24 2006, 15:23:29 UTC

What happened a couple of years ago? Something happened that caused her to lose her respect for you, or for herself, or both. Until whatever that is gets resolved in her mind, I don't think you will be able to move forward, I think she may need counciling (you might even need family counciling).

nightglade April 24 2006, 15:55:05 UTC

That is when we took her from TJ and Taniel ad got all the other kids. I didn't have the time to spend with her like I used to, because there were so many people in the house. I know that this was a contributing factor. I think she is also taking advantage of the fact that I am in so much pain that I can't be on her all the time. I'm not getting much help from her dad, and Jacon is trying to keep himself busy now that we are back in Tulsa.

deadpansev April 24 2006, 16:53:43 UTC

That would do it. She probably felt a little abandoned and is striking out now, especially since it is easier with you having more distractions. I still think some kind of family counciling might be a good idea. My sister was like this when we were kids and it sucks. My mom never got very far with her and she didn't calm down until she was on her own in her 20's.

hecate8176 April 24 2006, 23:26:08 UTC

Well Im not sure what to suggest other than a really really good child psychologist's books by author Foster Cline....Parenting with Love and Logic and there is one especially for teens.

Whatever you do try, I would suggest NOT taking away the art.
And hey, if you wanna get together and hang out I'm here and I'm a great listener (thats what im going to school for ya know!) Not to mention Im right down the street now.