Help!!

[nightglade]

I don't know what to do anymore, my kid is driving me nuts. She refuses to do anything she is asked, she goofs off in school to the point she's getting in trouble all the time. She either doesn't do her homework or she doesn't turn it in when she gets it done. I have tried grounding, spanking, restricting activities, counseling and threatening her with boot camp. None of it has worked. She just doesn't care about her education and expects to do whatever she wants. She was not raised this way, this didn't start until about 2 years ago. SHe is now 11 and has started puberty, but I didn't expect the teenage attitude to start for another couple of years.

On top of all this I'm in constant pain and waiting for insurance to kick in so I can have my surgery. All of this stress is making the pain and the problems worse.

Any ideas? Suggestions?