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[nicosian]

R tells me he doesn't think women exactly assume their blind date will rape them and leave them in an alley

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[elialshadowpine]

The "Schroedinger's Rapist" article helped knock some sense into Storme's head on that particular issue, but by then I'd also introduced them to some of the basics of privilege... and, well, when we got together in the first place over Boskone, they actually were afraid I'd feel obligated to have sex with them because they paid for meals* so it wasn't a completely out there concept for them. There's some really good "Nice Guy" articles that are perhaps a bit milder than the SR article -- if you want me to dig up, lemme know

[nicosian]

I think he does understand privilege, but on this one he doesn't seem to understand entirely why women are going "this is what we get with rape culture/misogyny

[elialshadowpine]

Yeah, the Schroedinger's Rapist article is pretty good for showing what rape culture is and the consequences thereof. There's also a really good article, I'm not sure if I have it bookmarked, about how women are socialized to NOT make a fuss if someone is harassing them, especially if it's in public. I'm not finding it atm, though. (... this is why I have started to make an effort to bookmark good essays. Sigh

[nicosian]

The Netherlands shooting was the DAY after I got there. I didn't understand enough of the newscast in dutch, but what I did understand was that they really felt that this damaged kid had been let down by society, not in a "maybe he was entitled to sex" thing like the US kid, but "what services or actions could we take to prevent this again". It was an honest inward look