Forgetting you is not an option...

[neo_rufus]

I recently visited Shellee’s grave and one word described what I was feeling, “empty.” People often think that the actual death of the individual is the worst part. Not to me. In fact, the worst part of death is actually forgetting the moments you shared with that person. I’m afraid to really admit it, but a few of the memories I have of her are

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[x_shock_me_x]

*hugs* I understand how it feels to lose someone close to you, when I was about 10 my nana died, and I was so close to her. When she died, I put everything i had of her in a little box, and i also had a diary where i wrote all this stuff that I remembered about her. Even now, nearly 9 years later, I still like to look at that stuff, even though I know the memories of her aren't in that box, they;re with me and they always will be.

She was terminally ill, and before she died she wrote me out this poem. She didnt write it, just copied it. I'm gunna see if I can find it and type it up because I think you might want to read it, from what you've said *runs off to find it*

[x_shock_me_x]

ok i found a link which has it online, check out

http://freepages.genealogy.rootsweb.com/~njm1/rosey.htm

I hope it makes you feel better, it aways makes me feel a lot better whenever i read it

[neo_rufus]

Putting away all the things that remind you of your late nana in a box is pure genius. Plus you had a little diary, talk about your trip down memory lane. I wish I was as lucky as you to have things to put in a box that remind me of Shellee. But you are right about one thing...the memories will always be there, with me. Just because I forget about them doesn't mean they never* happened. Thanks for commenting, that meant allot.

[x_shock_me_x]

no prob, and if you ever wanna talk about anything, I know i dont know you very well but I'm a good listener. *hugs* and I'm sure she's watching over you now.

DIE=LIVE LIVE=DIE

[ralphire]

True that she can't come back from the dead. I would be scared to death if that happened. But, she will always hear you, always remember, and always be with you. We will never know what the afterlife is like until it comes to us. Must be a very strange experience. But, you can always hope for the best. No matter how much I try to think of the afterlife and passing on. I will never know until the day comes. So, if you ever hear a person say there no such thing or they talk like they know how it is. Just tell them "are you dead yet." At least Shellee knows what the truth is and I hope her spirit is doing good. Your memories might be slipping away but that is just time. I doubt you will ever forget her.

laterz

Re: DIE=LIVE LIVE=DIE

[neo_rufus]

You are absolutely right...none of us can be for sure what it's like after death. Perhaps she can still hear us all; I'm feel bad for thinking different. I was so caught up in the sad moment. To be honest, I hate when a few of my friends try and force their beliefs about the after life on me. Like you said, there not dead, how would they know? I know her soul is doing well...she is such an angel. Thanks for commenting, that meant allot my friend. Take care.

Laters.

[_golden_shadow_]

I think it is harder for people left behind when someone dies.

When a person dies, the person moves on, but the people left behind have to deal with the loss, the pain, the anguish.

All you can do is remember the good times and learn from it.

I could go on and on about this, but I doubt you would care. And honestly, don't abandon your real-life friends for online ones.

Best of luck on your finals, I hope you feel better. And it is okay to feel...everything, anything.

[neo_rufus]

Yes, that is true.

That is the case, sadly. I think what really causes the sadness is that most people are not sure if they will ever see their loved ones ever again. The thought really gets to them, who can blame them? But I do agree with you.

Don't say that, I always care about other peoples point of views. I wouldn't have mind if you went on and on about it all. I was told so many times that my real-life friends matter most, I keep forgetting that. :(

Thank you for the luck, I'm going to need it. I wish you well in you exams and other task you have to face...thank you so much, friend. Take care.

[nilla_cookie]

Well, you know this is partially what an LJ is for: our memories. What we write will never disappear and will always be preserved, so even if you do happen to forget with time, you can always look back and remember these things. From what I can se though, she had a huge impression on your life, so even if you are forgetting certain moments you spent with her...you'll never forget her as a person, and that's what is important :]

And really, you don't have to apologize for not always being around. You should be allowed time to think ^^ It's life, and I believe we should experience it to the fullest; we have finals, jobs, school, etc..but our friends will almost always be there. Good friends could never stay angry at you for trying to make room for what's important to you.

Anyway, I hope you feel better *hugs*

[neo_rufus]

Live Journal is mainly for memories, isn't it? Duh, Miguel. I love your last sentence, it's so deep. I agree with you there, the moments we shared together are no where near as important as the person themselves. Oh she really did impact my life. What's strange is that you fully realize how much they impacted your life until after they are gone.

That was kind of silly of me, wasn't it? lol. My true friends will understand when I need time alone to think. Thanks for helping me realize that.

I am doing much better. It is all thanks to the comments I received today. Thank you all...I am very grateful. Take care, friend.

[hanyouhime]

she's pretty