What I've learned is that the smoker themselves have to truely, deeply want to quit smoking...they have to do it for themselves, and no one else...support him, but really, there's not a whole lot anyone can do outside of that...
The thing with the second hand smoke, though...when my hubby used to smoke, he wouldn't do it inside because it's not allowed at all in the house...that rule needs to be implimented by everyone in the household...that might increase his desire to quit if that happened.
I don't mean to put a damper on anything, but if he's going to quit, he's got to be the one to decide to, and WANT to do it. I smoked for 8 years (I started when I was 12, you do the math), and the only way that I quit was because I HAD to, or I was going to end up in the hospital. I didn't want to, even though I stank like cigarettes and it was hurting my family and my loved ones.
My father is HIV positive and also has Hep C, and still smokes. He's "tried" to quit, but in his heart he likes smoking, because it gives him a stress release, and there's no way that anything I can do or say that will make him quit.
Ultamitely, what I'm trying to say is that it's his decision to smoke, and it's got to be his decision to quit. It's wonderful that you want the best for him, and I totally understand that! But *he* has to decide that he's tired of it. Remember, cigarettes are an addiction, and the first step to recovering from an addiction is to admit that you have a problem. A lot of smokers don't see that there is a problem.
unfortunately, you can't make anyone quit anything until they are ready. guilt, begging, etc does nothing but make them resentful! trust me, my bf smokes and I wish he would quit, but I tell myself that the best thing I can do is to be supportive whenever he does decide to quit.
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The thing with the second hand smoke, though...when my hubby used to smoke, he wouldn't do it inside because it's not allowed at all in the house...that rule needs to be implimented by everyone in the household...that might increase his desire to quit if that happened.
Sorry I'm not much help...good luck, though!
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Hopefully that helps!
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My father is HIV positive and also has Hep C, and still smokes. He's "tried" to quit, but in his heart he likes smoking, because it gives him a stress release, and there's no way that anything I can do or say that will make him quit.
Ultamitely, what I'm trying to say is that it's his decision to smoke, and it's got to be his decision to quit. It's wonderful that you want the best for him, and I totally understand that! But *he* has to decide that he's tired of it. Remember, cigarettes are an addiction, and the first step to recovering from an addiction is to admit that you have a problem. A lot of smokers don't see that there is a problem.
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