My good friend maevefemme lost her mom about a year ago to cancer. Would it be ok if I sent her this way? Just thought it might be useful for you to talk to someone else who's been there.
Naamah, I'm so sorry. ::hugs:: I lost my dad to lung cancer in '88. If you want to talk, go ahead and email me, or IM me if you have Yahoo Messenger. I'm KDotto there.
Hi Naamah, bifemme and I just got done talking and I'd love to be a support for you. Another LJ friend of mine, paper_goldfish, was a tremendous help for me b/c she had just lost her mom to brain cancer when my mom was dying from her cancer
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Aw, jeeze, hun. *many, many, many hugs* If you ever need a place to vent, I'm a good sympathetic ear for this sort of thing. *more snugs* (And cookies!)
And if you ever end up in Southern California, for whatever reason, I just blew 60 bucks at Target on clearance-rack candles, so I have a very funky, Zen balcony for my dorm now. :) Very relaxing.
I so need to buy a buttload of candles. They're so girly, but I love them.
And I will be in LA sometime in the next couple of years. I am BOUND AND DETERMINED to win a writing contest, and the workshop/awards ceremony will bring me there for a week.
yay! Come play and share your writing! We can have junk food and chick flicks and read-alouds and candles! Yesh! (I'll even snag the nail polish to complete the girly-ness!)
I'd post a long, ranty post about how sad and scared I am, and all the frustration about things she won't get to see me do, but I'm tired right now, and there'll be time for all that tomorrow.
I wish I could tell you that it was unnecessary, that I know how this feels, but I don't. I got lucky. My father's second round of chemo seems to be the last one he'll need, and he came through essentially intact.
That's great that your dad's okay, though! My grandfather had prostate cancer but he kicked its sorry ass -- seriously. Ten years and not a peep. It's really, really good to see people win.
I'm not bitter, really, but you're right. It does suck.
Ah that's just no good, sweet. And I am not one who believes the crap about everything happening for a reason -- it just happened. I am sorry it had to happen to your mother. :(
This too shall pass. Don't let your pain drive you to the brink of anything foolish. Stay yourself, stay strong for her, make her laugh while she still can.
>>I am not one who believes the crap about everything happening for a reason -- it just happened.
AHA!!! Finally, someone who says it. Yes, that is exactly how I feel. Things have the reasons we give them, the reasons we make. But life doesn't hand us reason on a silver platter. Certainly not in matters of life or death.
I'll always be me . . . irreverent, obnoxious, loudmouthed, strange, and tough even though I complain. Ironically, I get it all from her.
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My good friend maevefemme lost her mom about a year ago to cancer. Would it be ok if I sent her this way? Just thought it might be useful for you to talk to someone else who's been there.
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There needs to be a "rueful laugh" smiley.
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And if you ever end up in Southern California, for whatever reason, I just blew 60 bucks at Target on clearance-rack candles, so I have a very funky, Zen balcony for my dorm now. :) Very relaxing.
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::hugs::
I so need to buy a buttload of candles. They're so girly, but I love them.
And I will be in LA sometime in the next couple of years. I am BOUND AND DETERMINED to win a writing contest, and the workshop/awards ceremony will bring me there for a week.
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I wish I could tell you that it was unnecessary, that I know how this feels, but I don't. I got lucky. My father's second round of chemo seems to be the last one he'll need, and he came through essentially intact.
I'm sorry that this is happening to you.
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I'm not bitter, really, but you're right. It does suck.
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big tight hugs...you have my best wishes, good thoughts and lots and lots of positive energy...
hugs...big tight ones...
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You help just by being you. :)
I'm feeling a lot better today.
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This too shall pass. Don't let your pain drive you to the brink of anything foolish. Stay yourself, stay strong for her, make her laugh while she still can.
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AHA!!! Finally, someone who says it. Yes, that is exactly how I feel. Things have the reasons we give them, the reasons we make. But life doesn't hand us reason on a silver platter. Certainly not in matters of life or death.
I'll always be me . . . irreverent, obnoxious, loudmouthed, strange, and tough even though I complain. Ironically, I get it all from her.
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