Bunch of Pussies.

[naamah_darling]

A good number of you have probably already read the latest round of articles in news services, feminist blogs and trade journals about the "sudden" interest in female genital mutilation - excuse me, plastic pussy surgery - right here in America

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[luckychance]

Thank you. Apparently, few are willing to say this outloud.

[naamah_darling]

That's what I was thinking. I was like, "Oh c'mon, everyone knows it's bullshit," but then I thought, "No, if that were true, this shit wouldn't happen." There'd be no demand for it aside from people who truly need it to function "normally" (whatever "normal" means).

So we HAVE to say it, evidently, because someone has to counter the incredibly hostile messages women get from . . . well . . . pretty much everywhere else.

[roguebitch]

I have to say in all honesty that I never really worried if my parts looked normal or not. This was because, after a childhood full of rape and molestation, I was much more worried about feeling normal sexually than about looking normal. Now, at the ripe old age of 37, I've gone a few years without contexting my sexual experience in terms of my abuse, and feel pretty normal all the time. But I've had years of therapy to get there. My job now is to reinforce to my daughter that she is normal and she is beautiful and no one else's opinion matters very much.

But I agree with you on pretty much all counts, there.

[naamah_darling]

Not worrying if you're not normal is not normal for us as a society, which says something pretty sick about "normal."

*hugs*

[roguebitch]

*laughs*

And now I'm all twisted up, but I think that means "mission accomplished"! ;->

[arinye]

Now me, I KNOW I am not normal, and in fact I would be horrified if anyone suggested I was!

~grins~ Of course, that's just me.

[felisdemens]

I recently unfriended someone (yes, I know, O TEH HORROR) because she, a relatively intelligent and educated woman, said "I love my pussy! It's perfect! Which is why I hate looking at pussies in porn - so many of them are so UGLY, it's DISGUSTING. All those hangy-outy lips. EW. They totally don't look like mine."

Whereupon I lost my tiny mind. But I tried to be reasonable about it, saying "Personal tastes are one thing, but to tell other women that their genitals are ugly and disgusting is WRONG. Shame on you! You know better than this."

She refused to acknowledge any fault whatsoever and thus we don't read each other. No loss.

Now, multiply this whole fracas by the thousands. No goddamn WONDER women are scared of their cunts. Ugh.

[pixxelpuss]

I have dangly bits. I'd also have found that off-putting.

[elialshadowpine]

Ditto.

[naamah_darling]

Ditto! What the fuck?

[sterlingspider]

I have to disagree with one bit of your post...

My husband pointed out that it's his belief that most men assume that whatever they have for a penis is pretty much average... There is nothing like it leveled at men. Nothing.

Most of the guys I have ever been with (well, the ones that had egos that actually fit into the same room as the two of us that is) were under the impression that they were woefully below average in size. Yes, even the guy literally as long as my forearm (who was large enough to severely limit us in positions due to pain issues) and the guy as thick as my wrist.

Porn is not the best example of the normal range of human penis experience either.

The rest of the post however gets a hearty hell yeah. It took me a long damn time to embrace my girl bits as they are and I wasn't even worried about anything in specific, I just didn't have any basis for comparison.

[sterlingspider]

I will say that the primary source of the "You Sir, are inadaquate!" messages that have been leveled at the menfolk are VERY recent in origin, I have had several conversations with a close friend about what all those Enzite commercials and "Add inches to your member" spams do to the male ego and it's about as sick as the "hide your bleeding hole and cover up that cooch stench!" advertizing we have to deal with.

I think it's truly sad that advertising has decided that they did so well financially by making women feel horrible about themselves that they're starting to embrace the same tactics with the guys.

[pixxelpuss]

Men also suffer from the effects of foreshortening, which makes their cocks look smaller than they are to THEM ONLY. Which is ridiculously unfair.

[naamah_darling]

I've been on the receiving end of that.

"I wish mine were bigger!"

"Uhh. Looks fine from here, dude. Could you try not poking me in the eye?"

[elialshadowpine]

I'm kind of the odd one out. I was very sheltered growing up; as a teen, I think I saw someone my own age every six months or so. While there were plenty of things I did worry about regarding my appearance -- mainly, my weight, teeth, and lopsided tits (one is about a half cup size larger) -- I can't recall ever thinking there was something wrong with my cunt to the point I agonized over it.

I'm shocked that it's a "normal" reaction. Because -- well, for all the reasons you've stated so eloquently. Looking at it from a medical perspective, everyone is different and unless there is a serious abnormality, what's the problem? *shakes head*

[naamah_darling]

You weren't indoctrinated into the cult of "MUST ALL BE THE SAME" that is pervasive in teen girl culture. It's horrible. Not that they go around comparing bits, but the attitude sticks, and it generalizes to EVERYTHING. Many of us . . . we're taught so much shame that we just assume we're defective.

I always kind of liked my lopsided tits. :D